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A new low...I went 'out out' last night...

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TossDaily Sat 17-Feb-18 08:55:03

...and some polite little bastard in a bar called me 'madam'.

Not staff. Just another punter.


I thought I looked ok.


Silvercatowner Sat 17-Feb-18 09:00:35

I don't understand......

FedUpWithBriiiiiick Sat 17-Feb-18 09:01:14

My sympathies OP.

A young lad working in a shop called me "dear" the other day.

I'm 35. 😔

FedUpWithBriiiiiick Sat 17-Feb-18 09:02:26

And yes, I did tell him off for using such patronising patriarchal language inside my head

ShotsFired Sat 17-Feb-18 09:02:54

I once got a full on head tilt and a concerned for absolutely no reason "you ok darlin'?". From a 17 year old...

WunWegWunDarWun Sat 17-Feb-18 09:04:37

I prefer madam to miss.

BitchQueen90 Sat 17-Feb-18 09:05:02

Where I work I'm one of the older members of staff - most are 18/19 and the youngest is 17. I was singing along with the radio the other day to an 80s song that came on and one of them commented that I was "showing my age."

I'm 27! confused

Spudlet Sat 17-Feb-18 09:08:18

Bastard. angry

Bluntness100 Sat 17-Feb-18 09:08:38

Yeah, I get you, standing in a wine bar with my 20 year old daughter, ordered two glasses of wine, heard the manager say to the bar maid "Id the young one". I looked at him and said "well she's hardly going to id the old one is she".

The comical part was my daughter was older than the barmaid. Who came over looked at her and said "sorry about this, I didn't because I think you're older than I am". And she was right grin.

Some folks just can't judge age.

thecatfromjapan Sat 17-Feb-18 09:09:53

I was called "Miss" by a young person apologising to me on the bus ...

I died a little inside.

Perhaps you were exuding an air of hauteur, Toss?

TossDaily Sat 17-Feb-18 09:10:30

It's a completely different experience being out in my forties.

I never saw myself as a particularly attractive person, but Jeez Louise, I feel like I e disappeared!

What did Joni Mitchell say? You don't know what you've got till it's gone?

She was right. Madam?!?!

harlaandgoddard Sat 17-Feb-18 09:10:40

If it makes you feel any better a guy at my work regularly calls me ‘madam’ and I’m 20 I think he just doesn’t know my name.

TossDaily Sat 17-Feb-18 09:11:31

I was attempting a tiny flirt. Won't do that again.


Fekko Sat 17-Feb-18 09:11:43

I don’t like being called ma’am. However when my work colleagues from southern America call me ‘Mu-ysss Fehy-kohhhh’ and it has me giggling like a schoolgirl.

IrregularCommentary Sat 17-Feb-18 09:12:31

I went into a bar a couple of months ago with a colleague. He got asked for ID on the door, I was waved through. That felt great...

mammymammyIRL Sat 17-Feb-18 09:13:36

I got called Ma'am yesterday, I'm 35 this month sad I think of school mistresses in their sixties when I hear ma'am angry

whifflesqueak Sat 17-Feb-18 09:14:50

Bitchqueen i’m 27 and also work with much younger people.

My mind was blown when I was helping one fill in his starter form and realised he was born in 2000 confused

TossDaily Sat 17-Feb-18 09:15:56

This stone is going to have to come off. It's making me look matronly.

Then I suppose I'll look haggard.

I'm not going out ever again.

<puts bag on head>

MissWilmottsGhost Sat 17-Feb-18 09:16:19

grin some young lad probably 30 called me madam the other day I was shock and said ffs don't call me that. He blushed.

TossDaily Sat 17-Feb-18 09:16:46

It stings, doesn't it?

TossDaily Sat 17-Feb-18 09:17:07

I wouldn't mind, he had a beard.

SpottyGecko Sat 17-Feb-18 09:19:34

My cousin was offended several years ago in a restaurant in Paris, as the waitress addressed me as Mademoiselle and her as Madame. We were both unmarried. I was 25ish, my cousin 29ish.

WinkyisbackontheButterBeer Sat 17-Feb-18 09:20:01

Oh ‘madam’ makes me die a little inside. I vividly remember the first time I got that rather that ‘miss’.

The very attractive, American man who calls me ‘ma’m’ in his lovely southern drawl is an entirely different matter.

GrumpyOldBagFace Sat 17-Feb-18 09:20:43

When I was doing my masters (many years after my bachelors) I had a group of early-20 friends. We went to a bar and the barmaid said that she'd need to see ID then turned to me and said "not you" OUCH!!!!

elephantoverthehill Sat 17-Feb-18 09:23:25

My similar moment a very long time ago was in France when I was addressed as 'Madame' rather than 'Mademoiselle'. It was kinda made worse as I was with my DM at the time.

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