Hi,
This is my first post as I feel I need impartial advice...
my DH has his final interview to become a police officer in two weeks. The thought of him getting the job is making me feel sick for many reasons :
- We are trying for a baby at his request as I already have two children from a previous relationship ( for the most part of their childhood I was a single mother) I'm worried with the shifts etc I'll spend most of my time alone with baby.
- I keep hearing that the divorce rate is around 80 percent for police officers.
- Affairs are apparently rife in the police force due to close bonding and a lack of family time.
- I'm not looking forward to spending many weekends and holidays without him
- DH did not ask my views regarding the job but applied anyway despite the impact on family.
For all of these reasons I have asked him to re-consider the job however I know that this is selfish of me. We have had a huge argument and we are now not speaking.
Can anyone offer advice please? Does anyone have an experience of anything similar?
The thought of him getting this job and the impact it could have on our lives is making me feel sick with worry x
Kind regards
Lisa xxx