DS friend's birthday

[mamababa]

DS is 6. There are a number of children who live locally who are in the same class/class above at school.
One particular child plays with DS a lot. He comes over, they play out etc. I know it's this child's birthday in a few weeks and they have just come in asking for a toy that this child likes a lot. I just said to him 'you'll have to ask for one for your birthday'. To which he replied 'I didn't invite your DS to my party because I didn't want him to spoil it. He is sometimes naughty. But I"ll definitely ask him next time'

I feel really for my DS and don't know whether to mention to his mum? My DS was there at the time. Yes he is sometimes naughty but aren't they all?

[pancakesfortea]

Hmm. That doesn't sound like stuff a child comes out with unprompted.

[gamerchick]

Aw that was mean :( I don't know if I would mention it to the other mother or not. Is the bairn upset about it?

No favourite toy would have been provided after that though.

[gamerchick]

I would be wondering how vocal his mother was for him to say that mind.

[grocklebox]

I wouldn't. Kids say all kind of shit, maybe he heard his ma saying it. I would have just said "sometimes you're naughty too" to him. Who they invite is their own affair.

[gamerchick]

In fact to can just picture the conversation.

'Mummy can I invite mini mamababa to my party?' And mummy saying ' not to say time, he might spoil it' 'why mummy?' Because he's sometimes naughty.. we'll invite him to the next one.

Child happy with that type of thing.

[gamerchick]

*not this time

[mamababa]

DS seems ok, it's all washed over him. He knows he can't be asked to everything. Said child is no angel, his mum says so too and I am the first to admit that my DS can be rough and boisterous which drives me nuts, but as a parent I would be the opposite and say 'you play with x all the time why would you not ask him'

I know kids are kids etc and it will all change but I feel really pissed off. I know the mum pretty well and would be surprised she said that.

[pancakesfortea]

On reflection she may not have said it about your child OP. The boy may have heard those reason in relation to why he sometimes isn't allowed to do things, and he has made the logical leap. The real reason may be completely different - eg simple limited numbers.