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Friends leaving me out

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Stellarella123 · 06/09/2012 12:39

I met 2 other mums at playgroup 3 yrs ago, we all hit it off and have became great friends lots of nights out and get togethers,we all live within 5 minutes of each other we used to have a turn each at having each other round for drinks but i would never invite one without the other, in the last few months they have been having random spur of the moment get togethers, bottle of wine etc, and not asking me, but they quite openly tell me all about it, I just stay quiet- wish I could say - u might have asked me, but I don't. They still seem there usual selves with me but I feel I'm distancing myself as I have been hurt before by people who I thought were friends. When I see any of them on there own they seem to talk about the other one all the time! I have been having a hard time lately but feel Im distancing myself so much I can't open up. Thinking of cutting ties as I'm already hurting, wwyd?

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Stellarella123 · 06/09/2012 12:41
  • not talking bad about each other- more like the sun shines out each others buts!
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BonnieBumble · 06/09/2012 12:47

That isn't very nice. Sad

I think 3 is a tricky number right from the preschool years up until adulthood. Perhaps they were looking for a "best friend" which is completely ridiculous but some women are like this.

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Stellarella123 · 06/09/2012 13:28

Glad I agree, I remember it being a problem at school too, but it seemed to be fine last few years just been a problem last few months, I have been pushed out, I don't think they have done it out of badness but do I stick around or let them push me away?

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Stellarella123 · 06/09/2012 13:28

*u agree

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BadEducation · 10/09/2012 00:09

I would let them get on with it and seek out other friends. They're being unkind, whether or not it's intentional

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G1nger · 10/09/2012 20:04

Yep, move on. Sorry.

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Stellarella123 · 11/09/2012 18:21

Thankyou, just needed someone else's view, :)

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Smokedsalmonbagel · 13/09/2012 22:44

A very similar thing happened to me and it was horrid.

In the end I ended the friendship which was really the best thing to do for my sanity and self esteem. Sometimes I wonder if it was the right decision but then I remember how crap they made me feel.

You are probably best to take a step back and leave them to it.

Have you got kids at school? I've met some lovely Mums through school.

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Stellarella123 · 13/09/2012 23:01

Thanks, I have 1 at nursery, nice mums there :) I have distanced myself from my "friends" it feels good, and it's true what u say, it is about self esteem too, it has been knocked. X

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