how can i help/should i even try?

[Belgianchox]

Ok, so i got a phonecall tonight from my parent's neighbour, they have taken in my DM who claims to have been punched by my father. My dm has very long history of drinking and as a family we've dealt with a lot of the consequences of this over the years. My father has many NPD personality traits - he's superior, charming to others outside immediate family, but can be frightening at worst, and stressful, demanding and gererally a huge pain to be with at best.
I don't live in the same country as my parents, neither do either of my sisters. They are pretty isolated, and my dm has very few friends. Basically her neighbour suggested pretty forcefully to me that I should send my mum a ticket to mine, and then take her in for the foreseeable future. WWYD? I don't have a particularly close relationship with my mother, her alcoholism has taken care of that, my dp doesn't care much for her (much less for my father). Plus apparently she doesn't have a penny on her, nor passport, telephone, credit card etc. My father controls the finances (and everything else). I don't know what to do, I spoke briefly to her tonight, but she was crying and drunk and making no sense, and I've no patience for her in this state.
FWIW it"s not the first time we've been here (by a long stretch), but how the hell is she going to get out of this predicament, and what if anything can I do about it?

[TheVisitor]

Direct her to Women's Aid?

[Belgianchox]

I would, but she doesn't live in the UK, she's in Portugal, and doesn't speak portuguese, I'm not even sure if there"'s anything comparable where she is. It's all just such a mess. Thanks for taking the time to answer.

[Belgianchox]

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[GypsyMoth]

speak to your father??

[AMumInScotland]

I think the British Embassy/Consul in Portugal would be able to provide some kind of assistance to a British National in trouble abroad. Though I'm not sure quite what they'd be able to do, they would at least have people who could find out about the local equivalent of Womens Aid.

[atswimtwolengths]

I think your neighbour actually didn't want the responsibility herself (not that I blame her.)

I'm sorry, I don't know what I'd do. If she's an alcoholic and you don't have a good relationship with her due to that, I wouldn't say take her in yourself. You have to look after your own family.