FB and I have 'broke up'!

[EstroGena]

I am sorry to say that our relationship is over!!

We have some great years together, made lots of friendships and had a bloody good nose into peoples lives!!!

This last year things have turned sour!!! Some friendships are damaged and some people now think they have a right to openly criticise me and make assumptions on my life due to comments put on FB!

I had all of my privacy settings on, to prevent people I dont know looking at pics of my beautiful DD's and blocked a violent ex p from abusing me further!!!

Then, thursday came, and somehow my privacy settings had reverted to 'default' ones and all was available for the world to see!

PANIC PANIC the ex can spy on me!


OF COURSE, IT IS ALL YOUR OWN FAULT I hear you say!!! If i didnt put it on there then it couldnt be seen/read!

But FB is an addiction.....I am physically incapable of NOT putting a status update on there or comment on others, no matter how hard I try!!!!

So, it has come to me removing ALL friends and deactivating myself or breaking my fingers and laptop!

(needed fingers and laptop for MN so FB got the chop)

Now I am missing the FB news, risk being left out the loop with all my friends, and feel like I dont know what to do with myself in the adverts between the soaps every night!!!

BUT....my reputation is in tact and I feel free! Free of feeling compulsed to share my days/nights and thoughts with the world!

Well....almost......

[MuddlePuddle86]

FB is a nightmare sometimes ! My mother in law insists it's the devil ! I had major problems with my sister in law (now she IS the devil). The problem escalated and I blocked/deleted her, so she started using mutual friends to "spy" on me...luckily, FB has some incredible settings, so the album of my ds is now set to private and only friends I allow to see it can...so the weirdos from school you feel obliged to add don't necessarily have to see into your life, you can also edit the settings so people you don't know/like can't see your status or comment on it...don't give up because of a negative reaction, work at it and be in control...and delete the idiots you can't appreciate you :)

[Tortington]

thats why i have three fb accounts.

i have one in my Mn name, so i can see mnetters and mn related observations.

i have one in my real name for real friends

i have one for games

[whomovedmychocolate]

I must have the world's dullest FB and nothing on there to incriminate me.

[MuddlePuddle86]

Mines pretty bland apart from photos of my ds and that was only for the benefit of family from far away, but even that's on lockdown...I like the idea of creating a separate, I did that for my business!

[southeastastra]

blimey a mumsnet name! i'd get confused i think though - only really use facebook for family things and rarely

[LeopardSkinPillBoxHat]

I deleted mine this week, I go on there after a bottle of wine and leave the most embarrassing comments on peoples photo's , on their walls and write stupid status's... Ive set up to delete permanetly, vanishes after 2 weeks apparently..

[lovechoc]

How long does your account stay active for people to see before it gets deleted?i last used FB in 2007.hoping all details have been destroyed.good for you op, leaving FB behind.it is something you can live without.I have coped anyway!

[LeopardSkinPillBoxHat]

when you opt to delete, it becomes deactivated for 2 weeks, I think people can see old inbox messages..

[Meglet]

Can you and FB get counselling and learn to have a healthy relationship again?

[Fossie]

One school mum has recently changed her setting so that I can't see her wall. I can't see the point of keeping her as a friend as there is nothing to see anymore. Should I delete her or is that likely to cause offence? I chat with her in the playground. Is it possible she doesn't realise she has blocked me? I haven't tried setting any privacy restrictions so I don't know how that works.
I know I could ask her but I don't want a difficult conversation if the move is deliberate.

[LeopardSkinPillBoxHat]

saying that.... ive had a bottle of wine and reactivated it!! no no no!

[EstroGena]

How come people take deletion as a sign you dont like them? People will be falling out all over the world. Before 'deactivation' I deleted 124 people!!! I should maybe get a security guard and sleep with the kitchen knofe under my pillow

World gone FB mad!

[MuddlePuddle86]

Fossie, tough one, I did that to my idiotic sister in law and she "got the hint" and deleted me. It's basically a kind way of stopping something from being active on your page without causing offence and deleting them. Do the same to her, that way neither of you are caving in.

Leopard-you can delete individual comments do you don't have to wait a thousand years for it to remove itself. Failing that have you heard of the 12 steps :o