Am I being mean

[abigproblem]

To say i don't want to see my borthers ill 4 year old at Xmas has a high temp flu bug

[hercules1]

I would have thought they would keep him away from everyone anyone if he has flu. He must be too ill for visitors surely.

[SleighGirl]

No if he is that unwell I wouldn't want to see someone. Can you rephrase it with a "lets have a special day together when he is well enough to enjoy it"?

[abigproblem]

Problem is live 400 miles away in Scotland near my Mum and we are all getting together at my Mums

[abigproblem]

I want to see my Mum but know my SIL will bring him anyway such a long journey home if ours get it

[SleighGirl]

He may be no longer infectious on Thursday?

[mumto2andnomore]

Children go up and down so quickly he will probably be fine by Christmas Day.

[MrsWeasleyStrokesSantasSack]

I wont be taking my ill DS to relatives unless he picks up tomorrow.

[abigproblem]

We are due to go tomorrow don't want to end up stuck with SIL turning up with him. She has said I'll him calpol and neurofen he'll be fine

[abigproblem]

aargh what shall i do

[lindenlass]

Are you or any of yours high risk for complications from flu? if not, I'd just accept you're going to catch it. It's no big deal - lots of calpol and calprofen for the children if necessary, and cuddles of course . It's only flu! Lasts a few days. And if you don't catch it from your nephew, you're bound to catch it from somewhere else as everyone is getting it at the moment.

I know I posted about vomitting bugs, but I think that's different - flu and colds are not something to bother avoiding unless you're immuno-compromised and could get seriously ill from it.

[lou031205]

I honestly think that you would be fine to go. Miserable for the whole family to have no celebrations because their child is a bit poorly.

[OhYouMerryMerryKitten]

blimey - only flu!
If it is true flu then he shouldn't be mixing, it can wipe out even healthy people for weeks.
If however its just a quick to come quick to go childhood type bug then I'd go.

[SleighGirl]

I bad bad cold is very different to proper flu which kills children, elderly & the immune surpressed.

[Leo9]

Yes I think as Sleighgirl says you need to know if it IS flu. Flu can be lethal to the vulnerable, and very young children can come into that category. If it is Flu the child will be in bed, not up and about - real flu is a truly nasty thing and you really are unable to get up with it.

If it's flu I wouldn't mess about exposing my child to it!

However it may just be a heavy cold virus. Have you spoken to SIL? How is the child today?