Would you get your dd the thing they really wanted for xmas

[Pawslikepaddington]

If you HATED it-it is a BIG present, and for the same price I could get her something really nice and wooden that she could have for years and would look beautiful, but she wants the typical 5 year old garishly horrible toy that I swore I would never buy and scorned the parents who bought them before I had children. Do I make her Christmas (which is what I want to do, but preferably with something else!), or just hope the obsession will go away

[Furball]

what is it?

[lazarou]

IS it a bratz doll?

[lazarou]

I'd get the thing they wanted and at least you know they'll play with it

[muggglewump]

If I thought she'd love it and would play with it loads then yes, I'd buy it.

[tatt]

As I still remember a present I desperately wanted when I was a child I would. My parents bought me something they thought would be better and I had no interest in it. One of my few childhood memories. What it said to me was that my parents didn't care about me.

So you can try and show her the delights of other things but if she is really keen then buy it. A big present is not the latest, more expensive item but something that your child truly wants. If they discover later that it was "be careful what you wish for" so much the better.

[KatieDD]

You should buy her what she wants, not what you want her tohave otherwise it says you don't trust her judgement.

[Pawslikepaddington]

Ha ha, it is so horrid I dare not link to it! It's not that bad really, and she has been told it will be a birthday AND xmas present, and she would play with it until it fell to bits, so I think I will.

I wanted this

She wants this

Which would you go for? xx

[Pawslikepaddington]

Argh, just seen the postage on the one she wants, think I'll pay full price at John Lewis/toys r us instead!

[Pawslikepaddington]

A bratz doll was on the list too, but that isn't coming! Why call them bratz? xx

[Tiggiwinkle]

Hmm... I see the dilemma! I like the rocking horse too-are you sure she would not like it?

[traceybath]

Both are a lot of money for something that i bet she'll get bored of quite quickly in my opinion.

But then i still remember the christmas i didn't get my make-up set

[morningpaper]

yuck

my children are allowed whatever they like from the argos catalogue up to £30

[Pawslikepaddington]

She likes them, but loves S'mores more! As in 1000 times more-I can't get her out of John Lewis for the one in there, and when it broke and they took it off display her world ended!

[morningpaper]

socking horses are really for grown-ups though, aren't they?

REAL children don't actually play on them do they? Not since the 1950s

[morningpaper]

ROCKING

[MrsMattie]

If you don't mind me saying - £200 is an awful lot to spend on a 5 yr old, no matter how well off you are. She could have proper riding lessons for that!

If you are going to spend it, though, I'd go for the one she really wants. No point having a present you like looking at but she doesn't actually enjoy playing with.

[Tiggiwinkle]

I suppose it's got to be the one she wants then!

[Pawslikepaddington]

There is background to it-she is/has always been horse mad, but can't ride because I am seriously allergic-even the slightest bit of horse hair on clothes sets me off, so even if I could get another parent to take her and bring her back she would need a bath and change of clothes before she came home. So I said she could have a toy horse instead, and then this all kicked off!

[morningpaper]

I think the smores horse is slightly depressing

can't you buy her a REAL pet?

[morningpaper]

What about a different kind of pet?

I really think that after she has worked out the 20 things it does, she will be bored of it

[itwasntme]

OK, I see why you want the rocking horse, but through the eyes of a five year old... a moving horse that is cuddly and you can sit on must be a gift made in heaven!

Get her what she wants, I'd have loved one of those at that age.

[Tiggiwinkle]

I have to say I have bought far too many things for my lot over the years, which I have loved-but they have never played with!

[morningpaper]

What about an enormous toy riding-stables present? Much better for imagination etc.

There's no way I'd buy one of those pretend pet toys, they depress me.

[Pawslikepaddington]

Thank you all for not flaming me on this and giving me proper opinions-psycho horse here we come-oh god, she had better like it after all this! No pressies from mummy ever again as my bank account will implode! xx

[mrsgboring]

Oh I'd get it, it's not that hideous (thought you were going to say it was "My First Beauty Parlour and Weight Loss Center" or something.

If you really can't bear the look of it, why not make it a horse blanket out of some lovely material that you will both like, and encourage her to keep him warm whenever he's not being ridden?