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This may have been done to death but if you haven't commented yet, how much do you spend per child?

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WhereWolfTheWildThingsWere Tue 21-Oct-08 09:20:57

I just keep reading of what seems to me quite large sums of money. (I am not judging that, each to his or her own)

I will spend about fifty to sixty pounds on ds 4.

And maybe ten pounds on dd 8m.

Am I scrooge?

Gobbledigook Tue 21-Oct-08 09:25:30

It's not to do with being a scrooge and it's not to do wtih loving your children any more if you spend more.

It's either about what you can afford, or it's about what you think is reasonable.

I suspect we spend a lot less than people who earn much less than we do because a) I have 3 children to buy for and b) I've bought way too much in the past and it's just overload, the kids get bored of unwrapping it, they can't possibly play with everything, I don't want spoilt children, I spend the money on other things (that the children benefit from even if they don't see it that way)....

Everyone is different. IME, within my family, it's those with the lowest incomes that spend the most. Tis bizarre.

PsychoAxeMurdererMum Tue 21-Oct-08 09:27:48

no. I have no idea what I spend on each TBHblush, I just ensure that they each have the same amount to open, which this year will be 5 gifts each under the tree, and maybe 15 small gifts in their rather large stockings!

this often means that the older children will have more spent on them as the gifts cost more, but I find it all balances out in the end. Also, age has a lot to do with it, as an 8mth old will have no idea she/he has presents, let alone that it is xmas (altho the pretty lights might give a clue that somehting special is happeningwink).

I have a (sounding huge in todays climate) budget for all the xmas presents this year of £1000........but I have been saving hard all year and have saved £20 PW into a christmas saving scheme run by my SIL. I am very lucky I know, that I can afford to have done this from january anywaywink!

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Tue 21-Oct-08 09:28:28

I have saved £600 worth of vouchers this is for dd1's bday, all xmas pressies and food for over xmas.

Though I already have dd1's main birthday present (an mp3 player I got for a tenner after seeing a thread about it being on sale) and her main xmas pressie will also be bought online and is about £30.

Gobbledigook Tue 21-Oct-08 09:30:35

YOu also need to consider what other people are going to get them. That's where I've gone wrong in previous years - looking at the 'pile' I have got and thinking 'oh I need to get a bit more' forgetting they have grandparents, great grandparents and umpteen aunts adn uncles that are adding to it.

This year I am going to be really sensible about it - I know they have a wii already from their nan so tbh, I don't think I need to get very much else as that will be the focus of their attention over the Christmas period.

darkpunk Tue 21-Oct-08 09:33:47

about £100 each.

mazzystartled Tue 21-Oct-08 09:34:45

My 2 will have a stocking each, and two presents each under tree from us. Trying to do the lot for £50. dd is 20 months so its easier.

bythepowerofgreyskull Tue 21-Oct-08 09:36:24

I never think about the financial worth of the gifts. This year DS1 (4)is getting a marble run thing from us (plus stocking fillers) I will buy him a little something from his brother.
DS2 is going to have a toy of some description

I have kept a note of things that DS1 has said he wants to put on his father christmas list and have distributed the list to family members.

Sorry but I really don't think having pounds and pence list is helpful to anyone..

the only thing that is helpful is to be guided not to spend what you haven't got..

Tortington Tue 21-Oct-08 09:37:27

if you dont spend lots of money you dont love your children grin

stretchmarkSCREAM Tue 21-Oct-08 09:40:31

DD1(6) £75
DD2(3) £75
DS(5 months) £40 (but that's going to mainly be clothes)

We have never spent more than £80 on them.

My parents are spending less this year as well, as they now have 4 gc, whereas last year they only had 2!! My bf and I have also agreed to only buy each others dcs a selection box as we are all broke!!

When I was growing up, my parents used to say we each had one big present every 3 years (there were 3 dcs!!) So, first year I got a bike, then the next year my sis got a bike and I got smaller pressies etc..then my bro. It worked for us!!

WhereWolfTheWildThingsWere Tue 21-Oct-08 09:48:27

grin Custy, will I be judged?

I have a friend who has to spend the same amount per child.

Last year she was running around trying to get up to £150 buying anything she could think of.hmm

mumeeee Tue 21-Oct-08 09:49:00

About £50 on main present and £30 on stocking,
So around £80 per child. But my children are now 21,18 and 16, We used to spend less when they were little.

ChopsTheDuck Tue 21-Oct-08 09:49:46

I don't like spending lots of money on stacks of presents. Last year they only had £20 each. We saved up all the money wqe could have spent on Xmas and spent it in Florida (only actually paid for flights oursleves, rest was a gift, btw!).

This year I've spent £50 each, so a total of £200. Won't be buying presents for dp or anyone else, and I'm saving up to take them to Holland and Germany at Easter.

I don't get the idea of spending £1000s on Xmas, though I suppose if people can afford it, fair enough. I'd rather save the money for experiences and memories that they will remember for years to come, than a toy that will be in landfill by June.

ShowOfHands Tue 21-Oct-08 09:53:02

Me and dh don't buy for each other and we have a £5 limit for everybody else. I have overspent on dd though. I've bought her a wooden trainset for £5.99

pagwatch Tue 21-Oct-08 09:53:10

it varies hugely as I buy ( as best I can ) what each child wants.
Last year DS2 wanted me to get him Tarzan on VHS which I could only get on ebay and was about £1.50.
Two years ago DS1's present was more than £800.
Varies hugely as what they want is never determined by cost but by their personal choices.
Which is how I like it grin

hecAteTheirBrains Tue 21-Oct-08 09:54:52

Dunno what I am going to spend on them. I have saved up £650 for christmas gifts this year. That's going to do everyone, so I shall see what I can get for me money grin

hockeypuck Tue 21-Oct-08 10:00:35

I spend about £50 each on actual gifts for them and then a fair bit more on PJs, Wellys, jumpers, tights, socks, pants etc that they get in their stocking. It's things I would have to buy them anyway as they just keep growing! but I use it to bulk up the christmas stockings a bit.

Pawslikepaddington Tue 21-Oct-08 10:01:18

I don't know-it is literally just dd and me this year as my mum died and her dad no longer sees her, so I will probably spend £80-£100, but on lots of little things and a fur real dog (don't ask!), as she will only be getting presents from me this year, so need to bulk them up a bit. Do you buy a present from them to yourself?

Gobbledigook Tue 21-Oct-08 10:03:34

I could be making a big mistake today by giving my 3 an Argos catalogue each to look at the toys grin

I will make it clear it's a 'wish list' not a 'this is what I will get' list and then they are going to do cutitng out and sticking.

MrsMattie Tue 21-Oct-08 10:32:52

I had budgeted £150 for 3 yr old DS (incl stocking). DH laughed heartily and knocked it down to £100. In the end, I've managed to get everything I wanted to get for just under £80, so quite chuffed. It still feels like a lot of money to spend, though.

MrsMattie Tue 21-Oct-08 10:34:03

p.s. I will have a 4 week old baby by Xmas, too, but am not buying anything for him/her. I will take lots of pics and make a little 'keepsake' album of his/her first Xmas instead. I'm so over buying presents just for the sake of it. grin

HappyMummyOfOne Tue 21-Oct-08 13:16:43

As long as you are happy with what you have spent and havent got into debt, who cares what anybody else thinks?

I love this season with halloween, fireworks night and xmas and love to make it as magical as possible. I dont add up what I spend as only have the one DS so can afford to spoil him at christmas. We have very little family so other than a couple of presents for them and teachers gifts I only really have DH and DS to shop for.

sweetkitty Tue 21-Oct-08 13:19:55

DD1 £125
DD2 £125 (but this is actually a bit less with 3 for 2's) so in "real terms" about £90 each
DD3 £20 she will be 5 months so it's more like she has a stocking from Santa too

amanda12 Tue 21-Oct-08 13:20:20

We don't really set an amount but are planning on getting each ds one big present and then a couple of little things. We have decided to cut down this year as we are going on a big holiday nxt year.We are also just doing photos and homemade goodies for family and friends.

CharleeInChains Tue 21-Oct-08 13:22:22

I am terrible at xmas.

My children (2 boys ages 2 and 4) awake to a lounge full every year so does dp. I start xmas shopping in January.

Its to much for them they don't appreciate it but i grew up the same, with xmas being totally spoilt as rest of the year is tight.

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