Please help.
I am on the whole a sensible person who learns from experience and has good quality relationships. Except Xmas with my bloody family. I know this is quite common and would appreciate advice/wise words so I can sort my head out now, before I repeat the whole idiotic situation next year.
I am one of 7, only girl. We are all doing fairly well financially and have agreed that we buy only children's gifts and tokens for the adults, if anything. We agree a £20-£30 spend per DC. I buy each of my nieces and nephews presents that I know they will like, I have good relationships with almost all of them, independent of my DB's and enjoy buying for them (Xmas and Bday). All but 2 DBs have DW's who do all the Xmas shopping. They buy awful presents for my DC, thoughtless or frankly weird things, obviously 'bargains' or regifts. They are also given MLM items sold by one aunt - not suitable for them at all - and bday gifts are often 'lost in the post', 'on their way', 'we'll give you next time we see you" (then they don't). I am not bothered as I accept that my interest in my DN&N is much greater than my DBs is, so I would continue. But my DC get upset at the thoughtless tat they are given when they see their cousins be given things they enjoy. It is causing resentment and DC relationship with cousins is more important than my desire to see them open gifts they like.
What would you do in this situation?
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Please help me sort my attitude to gift giving now, so there is no angst next Christmas
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whachatalkinaboutwillis · 02/01/2022 11:10
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