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At what age did your children stop believing in Santa?

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2020hello · 17/09/2020 21:35

I'm just wondering how long we have left our oldest is 6.5 years

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dementedpixie · 17/09/2020 21:36

Ds questioned from 6ish and we admitted it at age 8. Not sure about dd, she never gave much away tbh

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caughtalightsneeze · 17/09/2020 21:37

My youngest had stopped believing by the time he was 8, my elder child would have older. 9 or maybe even 10.

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Hazelnutlatteplease · 17/09/2020 21:39
  1. I thought he knew but oh the trauma when Santa was just going to bring a stocking not a sack. Eventually we worked out he thought he'd been very naughty...

    (He has SN)
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Miraculous · 17/09/2020 21:41

My oldest is nearly 7 and I’m pretty sure she hasn’t questioned it yet.

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Allgirlskidsanddogs · 17/09/2020 21:50

Eldest just over 8, just before Christmas. Youngest very sceptical at 8 and we had the conversation the Christmas she was 9.

I was just 4. Don’t read “What Katy Did” to children who still believe!

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mmgirish · 17/09/2020 22:41

My oldest is 8.5 and he is still a firm believer. We live in a country where most children don't believe as they don't celebrate Christmas. Lots of his friends don't believe but he just puts that down to them practicing another faith. He's very smart but naive. I'm starting to feel a bit worried about him being devastated with a lie.

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LizzieSiddal · 17/09/2020 22:43

Eldest was 9 and youngest was 11. I was quite shocked that they lasted that long, and it was lovely whilst it lasted.

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TooTrueToBeGood · 17/09/2020 22:44

Roughly 3 years before they tell you they've stopped believing.

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mnahmnah · 17/09/2020 22:44

My eldest is 8.5 and we haven’t heard a peep of doubt. He’s very bright, but quite innocent and naive for his age. So I’m letting him enjoy it while he can and before the others at school spoil it. But I’m assuming this will be the last year.

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Foobydoo · 17/09/2020 22:48

@mmgirish

My oldest is 8.5 and he is still a firm believer. We live in a country where most children don't believe as they don't celebrate Christmas. Lots of his friends don't believe but he just puts that down to them practicing another faith. He's very smart but naive. I'm starting to feel a bit worried about him being devastated with a lie.

I feel the same. DD is 9 after Christmas and still believes in Santa and the flaming elves! For the last two Christmases I've pulled out all the stops thinking this will probably be the last truly magical year. DD1 was suspicious from around 6.
I think she will be upset and I worry other children at school may pick on her about it.
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littlemsattitude · 17/09/2020 22:55

6, 10 and 9.

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stayathomer · 17/09/2020 22:56

My eldest was 10 but my 10 year old is mad about santa so hoping he doesn't find out before this Christmas. He's very innocent in general and out of 4 children he will definitely take it the hardest.My 7 year old already says 'if he's even real' sometimes, has said it for the last 2 years, which I was always gutted about

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NewAndImprovedNorks · 17/09/2020 22:57

Mine never did :(

DD said at about 3 “Father Christmas isn’t real” and so DS had no chance!

However now in their twenties they still have stockings and Christmas Eve stuff and love dressing the tree, so the ‘magic‘ bit has lasted a long time

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LovingLola · 17/09/2020 22:58

Both were 9
Both asked.

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Mustbethewine · 17/09/2020 22:59

My eldest is 9 and I have my doubts that he still truly believes. He's just not admitting it and I won't bring it up until he does. My 8 year old is still a firm beliver! I was around 9 when someone from school told me the truth.

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Smudgeis13 · 17/09/2020 23:01

My eldest was starting secondary school and I felt he should know before he found out at school and was teased. He burst into tears. We thought that secretly that he was pretending to believe. I felt pretty bad. I’d told him the truth about the tooth fairy that year too. Bad year!

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Jenasaurus · 17/09/2020 23:03

I think about 7

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IwishIwasyoda · 17/09/2020 23:04

We have lots of questions. Suspect he doesn't really believe but thinks he won't get presents otherwise. Age 7

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indemMUND · 17/09/2020 23:12

DD is 8 and a half and asked me if Santa was real a few days ago. "Tell me the truth please". My first response was "Can you ask me again in January?" Grin
I knew she was on the brink but I just wanted one more year, she's my only child. I didn't lie to her but I explained about the magic feeling of Christmas and how it's about family and a sense of tradition that still sees me (in my 30s) wide awake on Xmas Eve with excitement. I did see a flicker of something in her eyes that cut me to the core but she said "I knew it. Thank you for being honest". It was like the adult/child relationship was flipped on its head for a minute!

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jessstan2 · 17/09/2020 23:12

I don't think mine ever did believe in Santa. Neither did I. We're none the worse for it.

Those that do believe have usually stopped by second year of school but parents seem to want to carry on pretending.

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giggly · 17/09/2020 23:13

First one was 11 and second is almost 11 but hasn’t said anything yet this year but pretty sure they have it sussed as most of the other kids in class happily tell everybody that Santa’s not real and this was retold to me last year.
I’m still sticking to the we all believe in different thingsWink

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indemMUND · 17/09/2020 23:30

DD told her whole class that I was a vampire in year 2 (I'm an obvious goth). Several children approached me to ask if I was. I just grinned and didn't say a word. I think a bit of belief in some kind of magic when they're little goes a long way. It did work out in a nice way. DD said "You don't look like any of the other mummies, I like that because you're my Mummy, no one else's" Grin
She's year 4 now and while I get looked at in the playground like I've got 3 heads by the other parents, mine is the only child I've seen who charges with a running hug at every pick up!

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PegasusReturns · 17/09/2020 23:36

Somewhere between 8-10.

My eldest asked at about 9 and I replied “do you really want me to answer that, FC only comes to those who believe”. We’ve never spoken about it since and she’s now almost an adult, although she does help me out with delivering the Christmas Eve box as my youngest still believes

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Pipandmum · 17/09/2020 23:55

6 or 7. I think my youngest really wanted to keep believing even though she knew the truth so played along for a year or so. My eldest got suspicious when he realised that Tesco sold the presents he wanted - he asked me if Santa shopped at Tesco too, then later tentatively asked me if I was actually Santa.

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WillowB · 17/09/2020 23:58

@mnahmnah

My eldest is 8.5 and we haven’t heard a peep of doubt. He’s very bright, but quite innocent and naive for his age. So I’m letting him enjoy it while he can and before the others at school spoil it. But I’m assuming this will be the last year.

Exactly the same here.
I was hoping make the most of it with some sort of really nice Santa experience this year as I think it will be the last year he believes. We've booked the winter wonderland at center parcs but the way things are going again it probably won't happen Sad
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