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Am I silly to worry dd7 will be disappointed

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StormyIsland Sat 16-Dec-17 20:23:00

Dd7 has asked for a kidicom max phone. DH is saying definitely no, I'm not keen either. We have a constant battle with trying to limit her screen time and just don't want to get her a phone even if it's just a kiddie one. Also I think 80 pound present is excessive for a seven year old. We're about to move to a big house with lots of land to go on adventures in and would prefer her to be out rather than staring at a phone. She says she is not interested in toys and only likes electronic things. Objectively I'd say yes she isn't massively into toys. She loves imaginary play with her friends or siblings but prefers to use random bits and bobs in their games (plastic phones, wands, bags, hats, pots and plates, notebooks etc). She is also mega active and loves her scooter and bike, dancing and music and anything outdoorsy or anything to do with her friends.

So far I've gotten her : baby Annabel, double buggy for her dolls (second hand), electronic secret diary, bedtime stories for rebel girls book,, beado JoJo bows and a unicorn onesie. She'll get maybe five presents on top of that of other people. We don't tend to do lots of stocking stuff.. maybe some chocolates and pyjamas but not much more. Her little brothers are getting presents that are going to make them scream with excitement. Nothing expensive but just the perfect presents for them.

I worry she isn't getting enough presents and especially that she isn't getting a present that's going to make her go WOW. Is this just silly and a recipe for a spoilt child? She has always been mega grateful for any presents and even for every single birthday card she gets. I was always disappointed at Christmas because we were poor. We are not poor but probably tend to get less expensive presents than people who've got less money as we don't want to bring up spoilt children. But I'd like to find the middle ground where they get presents they find really exciting without getting them super expensive stuff.

I thought about heelys but she's super clumsy and they are dangerous anyway. I thought about a massive rocking horse but won't manage to get one in time for Christmas. Just can't think of anything that'll be really exciting. Am I just worrying for no reason? She'll have an amazing life in the new house!

Stickerrocks Sat 16-Dec-17 21:33:59

Climbing frame, swing or tent for the new garden?

Littlelambpeep Sat 16-Dec-17 21:37:35

I think that they are quite wow op.

Honestly - plenty. Tonnes in fact. You are right to stick to your guns about screen time

Peachypie83 Sat 16-Dec-17 22:06:25

My 7 year old DD is getting almost exactly the same. I think it sounds fine, try not to worry.

rcit Sat 16-Dec-17 22:06:38

You could top it up with some sweets. Small consumable stuff.

Snowman41 Sat 16-Dec-17 22:08:56

She will be totally happy with that. Please don't worry.

CheeseyToast Sat 16-Dec-17 22:10:40

To me it sounds like a veritable MOUNTAIN of gifts and she will be delighted! She may also express some disappointment about the phone but don't be afraid of this, it's all part of growing up. She is a very Lucy girl to have a loving family that provides so well for her; the very worst thing you could do is to apologise and indulge her every wish- that is the recipe for disaster,

CheeseyToast Sat 16-Dec-17 22:11:10

Lucky not Lucy 😂

Oly5 Sat 16-Dec-17 22:12:24

Some things for her new room? Like a dressing table or lava lamp?
A den for the new garden.
One of those wigwam tents and some cushions/a throw to go on it?
You have some nice presents already but I’d agree there’s not many and none of them are wow

domesticslattern Sat 16-Dec-17 22:19:01

Walkie talkies?
Fantastic if you are moving somewhere with lots of land. Argos have them (the adult ones with a decent range, not the kids ones).

Buttercupsandaisies Sat 16-Dec-17 22:19:48

I'm going to go against and say get her a phone. If it's what she wants it doesn't matter what else you get her, she'll be disappointed. £70 sounds cheap unless it's about affordability?

You said yourself she enjoys play. Outdoorsy stuff so it's not like it's going to pull her away from that as she does it still now

If you don't get the phone I wouldn't bother with anything else - that'd be a waste of money I think

Don't understand the comment about heeleys being dangerous tho - both my DDs have had them no problem

Buttercupsandaisies Sat 16-Dec-17 22:21:45

As pp poster says, I recommend Binotone walke Walkies - we've gone through loads over the years and these are amazing - we take them camping etc and they have a great range. They're about £30 but are defo worth it. Don't bother with cheap ones

septembersapphire Sat 16-Dec-17 22:22:55

Sounds like lovely presents but I’m soft and I would get her the phone, but with a note from Santa about restricting time spent on it?

Auspiciouspanda Sat 16-Dec-17 22:25:12

I agree with not getting the phone however the way you've described her doesn't translate to an Annabelle doll and pram. Children do get disappointed especially with the contrast of her brothers screaming in excitement.

traviata Sat 16-Dec-17 22:34:35

I'd not get her the phone, but she is saying she doesn't see herself as someone who likes toys. In her 7y/o way, she wants to be perceived as more grown-up (perhaps to distance herself from brothers??)

So is there something you can get her that makes her feel grown up, without it being inappropriate?

The list you've got sounds lovely btw, she is a lucky girl, but I do think she is telling you something. The electronic secret diary is quite a 'grown-up' gift compared to the other items, is there something else you could add along similar lines?

A smart handbag? a cheapie camera perhaps? Just Dance if you have a Wii? Something that her little bros will have no part of.

princessworkingmum Sat 16-Dec-17 22:36:02

Soft here too - I'd get her the phone!

NameWithChange Sat 16-Dec-17 22:38:48

As you have money to spare... and you are a bit worried and you want to encourage outdoorsy things.. I would buy her a fabulous outdoor playhouse/she's thing for the new garden. Special for her.

No need to buy it yet.... find one online, take a photo and make it into a voucher, and wrap that up. She will then have something super exciting to look forward to in the new house 😊

leeloo1 Sat 16-Dec-17 22:41:58

Aren't the baby Anna belle dolls and buggy too young for her? My 4 yo would be thrilled, but if assumed at 7 she'd be moving onto something more grown up - especially if she doesn't like toys that much.

If you aren't getting her the phone then tell her clearly in advance, so she won't be expecting it. And I'd get her more grown up things - maybe the walkie talkies already suggested, or one of those voice activated/lockable diaries, or an activity present - like a voucher for GoApe or something if she's outdoorsy?

SleepingStandingUp Sat 16-Dec-17 22:42:29

Her presents spud lovely and I think your right about the phone. Why on earth does a 7 yo need a phone??
I can see why you're still searching though - I aasime she's already a dolly girl so whilst she'll love them it isn't WOW wow. electronic secret diary, bedtime stories for rebel girls book - both nice quiet time gifgo, beado JoJo bows and a unicorn onesie - again kinda indoor presents.

Can you get something for outside? So the been ideas with a big no boys sign. Garden toys. Bike. Roller skates?

MmmmmmBop Sat 16-Dec-17 22:52:12

What about a camera, one of those that prints instant pics, so she can get stuck in straight away?

Haudyerwheesht Sat 16-Dec-17 22:55:46

What about a kidizoom dx watch? You can play games and stuff on it? Dd (7) bought herself one with her birthday money.

Also definitely don't think she's too old for baby and pram so long as she likes that kind of thing. Dd is getting another baby for Christmas although admittedly not a pram because she already has 3. They are all still played with loads.

purplecorkheart Sat 16-Dec-17 22:56:09

To be honest I would be thinking the baby Annabel and pram would be more the 3 to 5 age group.

CheapSausagesAndSpam Sat 16-Dec-17 23:09:53

I've got my 9 year old a metal detector OP. Great way to be outside and the bonus possibility of treasure!

CheapSausagesAndSpam Sat 16-Dec-17 23:10:34

Purple some DC still like dolls and DD only stopped pushing her dolls pram this year and she's 9!

Cagliostro Sat 16-Dec-17 23:18:59

I would not get the phone

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