BIL (younger than DH but they're very close) has his first girlfriend, they've only just got together and aren't even 'official' yet but they've known each other for years and years and BIL has always had a thing for her. She has a DS from previous relationship similar age to our DS. For Christmas I've got a main present for BIL, a smelly set each for both of them and chocolates/ bottles to share. Was planning on putting something small in for her DS and addressing it to 'BIL, GF, DS' or is that weird? Dad is still around.
Background: haven't meet the GF yet, tried to make plans to do something nice both our boys would enjoy so we could all get together but they've said no, apparently busy. We're NC with ILs because FIL is toxic and abusive and MIL is too much under his control. BIL is only family on DH side he really has although he is close to my family, I don't want him to loose him as they've always been so close. FIL is desperate to break up DH/ BIL as he's still trying to hurt us from afar and I'm worried about the lies he may say to new GF to turn BIL against us. So it's not just a Christmas present, i want to show GF I'm nice, I want to get it right for my DH's sake and not fuck it up!
Step families what do you think? Present for GFs DS nice or weird? (And in case anyone wonders why I'm doing 'wife work' DH works away, I work part time. Plus I'm just better at shopping!)
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Present for BIL and new GF help- who do I address it too?
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bumpysleighride · 07/12/2017 13:38
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