DS1 will be 11 just before Christmas. He insists that he still believes in Santa. I can’t work out if this is true or if he is bluffing me really, really well. We have the same conversations about the characters at Disney - so we all say we met the real Donald Duck, for example, and pour scorn on people who say it is just a bloke dressed up. Again, not entirely sure if he is playing me....
So, do I have the talk about this before Christmas, or afterwards? I’m torn between honesty and worrying about spoiling Christmas...
Let him believe. I remember going on for years 'believing' for my mum and dad when I knew really. I just didn't want to let go of the magic, if you see what I mean. It was never a problem at school because school and Christmas eve with my family didn't ever mix. No need for a big talk.
I just said to my son, now that you're 11 do we need to have a talk about Santa? He just shook his head, grinned at me and said he'd figured it out a couple of years before. He's nearly 16 now, and we still do stockings and put a drink and mince pie out for Santa on Christmas Eve. He also insists on reading 'Twas the Night Before Christmas still too, except he reads it to us now instead of us reading it to him!!
DD is the same age and loves pretending to believe. She has written a sealed Private letter to FC, the little sod! I have no idea wtf to buy her, she knows this, she knows I know she knows this... well it's more fun than ELF on the shelf I guess
Let him believe. Ds1 is 10 (yr 5) and showing no signs of figuring it out. He questioned 2 years ago but seemed convinced and nothing since. I think I will talk to him before next Christmas but this year he still believes.
It's Christmas. It's a fun family time of year based around an imaginary character (well he did actually exist but doesn't fly around the world on a sleigh!) centred on what was originally a religious celebration. (Again still is but santa isn't iyswim?!)
So what if they want to believe in the magic? So what if they talk about santa and leave a pie? So what if they don't believe but just play along?
Does it actually matter?
I had a sibling 7 years my junior. I played along for a long time. My mum used to give me the eye and then a sly smile and wink when I'd accidentally make comments about things 'she'd' put in my stocking. I left home at 18 and played along right up until then as my last Christmas at home DB was only 10!