Okay so we currently have one child just turned 3 and one on the way just over 3 months along. My family live abroad and my in laws live about an hour away (we used to live 10 mins away but we moved about 18 months ago. Every Christmas for the last 10 years we've got up opened present at our house and then gone over to the in laws mid afternoon till the evening to open presents with them and have Xmas dinner. We've never spent a Christmas over with my family because we have 2 dogs and can't take them with us.
Now this year my family are closer with their dogs and I invited them over for Xmas initially thinking they wouldn't come as it's a lot of messing about for them to get here but now they've decided to decent upon us for 10 days. Both my parents birthdays will also fall between this period.
My husband initially raised some concerns when I spoke with him about it before asking them but said it was okay. Now they've come back and said their coming so it'll be my parents, my niece and their 2 small dogs. My husband is very upset as he feels it's the last Xmas morning we will get with our son just the 3 of us before his sibling arrives plus because of his age it's his first Xmas he will be aware of what's going on. But he now feels it's ruined because my family will be here.
Just to also add last Xmas wasn't great either as he was under a lot of stress at work and I asked if we could have a full Xmas day at home and his family could come to us as our son should get to play with his toys all day without having to spend 2 hours in the car. Plus he was only 2. And i've never got to have a family Xmas at home just us as my mil always wants us there. He was mad at me then too. I eventually gave in but the only reason we actually stayed at home was because we went to get in the car to drive over and his tyre was flat.
I totally understand his feelings on the matter but I don't know what I can do to make anything better. I don't want another Xmas like last year with upset, arguments and stress but this will probably be the only year I'll get to spend with my parents on Xmas day now for the foreseeable future. And can't now uninvite them!
Any thoughts would be much appreciated and apologies for the long post!!
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MGrey · 13/11/2017 12:30
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