Since DC were born DH's family have wanted to spend every Christmas with us. This includes his middle age siblings who have no DC of their own. They want to see the DC open presents and spend time with them. Only it's not just Christmas Day, they want to spend the festive season with us despite only living a short car drive away and stay for days on end! I have to kick my DC out of their rooms onto air beds.
This has caused me so much work and expense over Christmas and I have had a pretty miserable time. There are times when I went upstairs and cried because I was so knackered and felt like I'd been pushed out of my own DC's Christmas. They got to do the nice bits whilst I cooked and cleaned up after everyone.
The way I see it is that since DH's siblings are in their 40's, they should take turns to host their parents and we should do it when it is our "turn". I am not totally unreasonable. PIL host lots of dinner parties for their friends so are also capable at doing it at their house. DH thinks I am BU as it is Christmas and time for family and we are the only ones with DC. Funny thing is, he is barely on talking terms with his siblings and they only come out of the woodwork at Christmas.
I have told DH that my options are:
- One of his siblings hosts Christmas and we go over for lunch.
- We book a restaurant and all meet up. Everyone pays for themselves.
- We cook Christmas lunch and they come over for lunch.
No staying over and no meeting up on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day as I want to relax and spend time with our little family and go visit my siblings and friends.
What do you think of my 3 options and how am I going to break it to them when they ask me, usually around now, what we are doing for Christmas? Any deviation from us hosting usually ends up in MIL being very, very upset.