When I was small, Christmas was about Baby Jesus being born, and all the family coming together. Yes there were presents and decorations and outings and Santa and all that too. But the focus was mostly on family and some on Church.
Nowadays, Christmas is all about the children and presents. If you don't have small DCs, it seems as though you don't matter. Everything must be aimed around the children and their timetable - no waiting for communal opening of presents after lunch or whenever the agreed time is. The DCs are allowed to run around underfoot while certain adults are working hard to get the meal ready but you can't give out to those DCs as "its Christmas and all about the DCs and they are enjoying their new toys". Nor are you allowed to have a quiet chat as adults in 1 corner without those DCs pulling out of you and their parents being upset if you ignore them for 5 minutes to finish the conversation they interrupted.
Alcohol has always been part of it. But it seems like you are now expected to have buck's fizz or even prosecco with breakfast and keep going all day and long into the night. This having followed wild nights out on multiple occasions in the run up. If you don't participate in everything, you are "an old spoilsport" or worse.
Asking for a quiet afternoon at some point over the short break, when its been a busy year and festive season which has utterly exhausted you, is verboten as "it's Christmas, we need to see you!" - having seen me yesterday and tomorrow and the day after that. And also bearing in mind I have to fit in the other side of the family at some point before getting back home to our house. And fit in a few friends and other family when we do get back home.
Expectations for presents have risen exponentially - and extortionately. Between the marketers thinking that you should spend £100 on a phone for your friend, or £,000s on a watch or diamonds for your OH, and teens and younger adults expecting that you will cough up the good stuff.
Or the opposite - when one group turns around 6 days before Christmas to say that they have organized a completely different arrangement to usual (and a communal gift from them) when you have already purchased and possibly even wrapped the 15 individual gifts for them!
Is it just me, am I getting old, or has Christmas changed so much over the past - not even 20 years, or 10, I think it's the past 4/5 years.
Too scared to put this in AIBU, but fully expecting to be flamed.
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What has changed that I haven't gotten the memo?
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BiddyPop · 20/12/2016 11:44
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