Nursery etiquette

[PetalMettle]

DS has been In nursery since July. He went into the baby room with a,b and c. A was his key worker. None of a-c seemed to start before 830 so I'd give him to D in the morning who'd sort his breakfast etc.
In September they did a restructure. C left, b went into toddler room and D joined baby room and became DS keyworker.
At the start of this month DS Got moved up to toddler room and B became his keyworker. He still sees D for breakfast. There are also three other staff in his new room E-G that I don't know particularly well - one of whom I never see as I drop early and pick up late

In summary A - keyworker for first 2 and a bit months
B - in same room for first 2 months will have been keyworker for 6 weeks come Christmas
D - keyworker for maybe a month and sees him every morning for breakfast
E-G - other staff in new room.

I really like D and she's lovely to DS so want to give her something. I think I should give B something too. Do I need to give A anything? What about E-G?

And then finally what's the going rate? Am thinking a voucher might be nicer than a gift

[Whynotnowbaby]

If you want to give D an individual present I would also give one to B. In this situation I would also give a tin of chocolate biscuits or box of chocolates to be shared by all staff.

[BiddyPop]

I agree - something small each to B and D if you want, and a box of something to share in general.

It might be nice if it's something HM that DS could be involved with. Not, given not long out of baby room, a huge involvement - but DD at that age always "helped" me to make spiced Christmas cookies for crèche (from 11.5 months to leaving crèche at 4) - she started doing a small stir of the egg mix, and stir of the main mix, and then doing rolling out and a few cut outs with her own small bit of dough (that small bit of dough was used for HOME consumption) - by the time she left, she was almost doing them entirely herself. But she loved getting involved, and saying to them that she'd made the cookies was a big thrill every year!

[Bobsmum02]

I agree, something individual (small) for B and D and then a tin of biscuits, sweets etc for the rest of the team.

[attheendoftheday]

Yes I agree with gift for b and d. I don't think you need to worry about a, but you could do biscuits/chocs for the staff group.

[MigsSlippers]

I agree. A and the others will get things from their current key children.

We tended to give a bottle of prosecco and a tiny box of very posh chocolates. If you want to do HM, christmas tree decorations or xmas card with footprint are straightforward and "low pressure" for the receiver.

[Mammabear31]

Sorry jumping on the bandwagon....am stuck what to get for the lovely ladies at my DS' nursery. Would a hobbycraft voucher be received gratefully, perhaps? I want to get something they can all benefit from, but imagine they get bombarded with chocs!

[PetalMettle]

Thanks all. Are vouchers a no no then? Just booze seems so specific!

[PrinceMortificado]

I did vouchers back at nursery. Nursery nurses aren't well paid. I figured they can buy what they want. When I was on a low salary, posh chocs would have been lower on my list than lots of things.

[LittleFryingPan]

Mammabear - I'm currently praying you're one of my parents, I'd love a hobby craft voucher. The other girls I work with probably wouldn't.

Gift vouchers are really hard unless they're either a general one you can spend in lots of places or you know the key worker well enough to know their tastes (got a tattoo voucher one year! It was the best). Or even one for a beauty shop - got a pedicure one when I went on mat leave from one parent, it was very very much appreciated.


Homemade tree decorations at Christmas are lovely to receive. When you decorate the tree you can remember all the littles you've had over the years.

[PetalMettle]

Cheers PM - is £15 right? Or £10? Too tight? Was thinking marks as you can do clothes or food

[PrinceMortificado]

I don't remember, I think we did something like £20. We didn't have 4 to buy for though. £10 is perfectly fine, you don't have to after all. We also did a basket of chocolate to share. There is a cook and a cleaner and lots of nursery workers who go in and out of the rooms after all.

[WiltingTulip]

I buy a gift (voucher usually) for the main carers (the ones who have spent the most time with dcs) and a group gift for the staffroom with a card.

[WiltingTulip]

Group gift = a couple of trays of mangoes (in Aust) or chocolates that can be divided.

I appreciate them so much and feel they deserve a gift more than most people!

[PetalMettle]

Yep will def do a couple of chocolate tubs I think or one of chocolates and one of biscuits