Christmas get together - and booze

(5 Posts)
Misty9 Sun 13-Nov-16 22:54:09

My side of the family of 8 adults, including dh and I, and children are spending Christmas together in a rental property. My mum, her partner, and my brother and bil drink. A lot. Me, not much, and dh the odd beer of an evening. My other brother and sil drink a moderate amount.

Last time we all got together for Christmas I was pregnant and dh and I ended up paying £70 towards the booze bill for the week shock. The next time they at least excluded me from calculations but dh ended up contributing over £30 for a long weekend booze bill. He probably had 2 beers.

I'm trying to work out how to address this Christmas. I want to suggest that people bring their own booze but it's not massively practical for some. Can I ask that dh and I just aren't counted in divvying up? My bil in particular likes expensive wine... or am I being scrooge and should just suck it up?

For context, family get togethers are usually very stressful and involve at least one big argument... can't wait hmm

NewIdeasToday Sun 13-Nov-16 22:57:26

They are your family. Just be straight with them and say that as you and your DH don't really drink, you'll bring your own supplies. Say that everyone else can sort themselves out as they wish.

Problem solved.

Allalonenow Sun 13-Nov-16 23:09:16

Don't go, have your own family Christmas with no rows and a small amount of booze.

IAmNotACat Sun 13-Nov-16 23:13:41

BYOB is fine. If it's not practical for some then they can ask one of the others to bring for them and share the cost between them. It's not up to you to provide it.

My friends know that I don't drink and will need to bring their own if they want a drink at my house (which is fine, don't mind people drinking around me)

Misty9 Mon 14-Nov-16 23:01:17

allalone if only! We really wanted a Christmas at home this year but had this foisted upon us. And my dad has already put dibs in for next year! I'm not 10!

Being straight with my family would save a lot of stress (and therapy costs...) but sadly is not that simple.

Sigh. Still don't know what to do but I'll be stressed either way so maybe I should at least save money!

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