She has dementia (early stages), she gets really upset if there are new things in the house and tries to get rid of them. If we replace something then she gets upset - e.g old oven gloves had holes, she agreed they needed to be replaced, went with us to choose some, definitely her style, a few years earlier it would have been a great gift (she always preferred practical, useful gifts). Next day someone had come into the house and stolen the old ones which were really valuable and replaced them with fake ones .
It is the same with food, she refuses sweets etc, other food she gets cross that there is different food in the house, she will insist that it isn't hers even if we say we gave it to her. She will gather the food together in one corner and it will sit there until we next visit and she will tell us off for leaving it. She refuses to entertain the idea that it was a present intended for her.
Really not sure that giving her something is helpful if she gets cross and upset. I could buy a plant (she still enjoys them but over waters them) and hope she doesn't bin it. I can't get an experience - we always take her out for coffee anyway (so not really a present) and she gets stressed and anxious if we drive out of their little town.
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shouldwestayorshouldwego · 05/11/2016 07:37
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