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qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 16:21:58

Parents and in laws both love a 5 hour drive away and neither can travel due to I'll health. We do alternate Christmas with each set of parents. Last year was my parents turn dh lies about when he was working so we stayed home. This year he has said it is his parents turn I am tempted to just go to my parents with dc and not tell him

PacificOcean Sun 25-Sep-16 16:24:23

Of course it should be your parents' turn if you missed last year. I'd just say that up front tbh!

GoofyTheHero Sun 25-Sep-16 16:25:26

What? He lied to you about when he was working? Didn't you realise he was lying when he wasn't at work when he said he would be? How did that pan out?
So this year you want to just take your kids to your parents without your DH and not tell him you're going?
Do you have other relationship issues going on OP?

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 16:25:39

I have said it up front he just said no it isn't

GoofyTheHero Sun 25-Sep-16 16:26:36

So then did you not say 'you lied about your working days which meant we missed Christmas with my parents. Therefore we will be spending Christmas with my parents this year'?

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 16:26:47

Didn't realise till Christmas day when he admitted lieing to late to gov

PrincessOG16 Sun 25-Sep-16 16:26:56

Go to your parents. Lying git.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 16:27:38

His answer is I have told my parents we are going

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 16:28:18

He is a complete dictator and bully

GoofyTheHero Sun 25-Sep-16 16:30:20

I don't think I'd be packing up and going to my parents for Christmas, I think I'd be making plans to leave for good.

PotOfYoghurt Sun 25-Sep-16 16:39:08

I think you should be asking yourself if you want to go completely, not just go for Christmas. Why are you with him?

Cel982 Sun 25-Sep-16 16:40:16

You don't want to stay married to a complete dictator and bully, do you? You deserve better, and it's a terrible environment for your kids to grow up in.

Make a plan.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 17:49:29

He will hit the roof so will be the end

DiegeticMuch Sun 25-Sep-16 17:57:04

Never mind Christmas. Get out of there as soon as you can. You'll get loads of handholding and practical advice on the Relationships board.

VanillaSugarandChristmasSpice Sun 25-Sep-16 18:02:09

I think it's naughty to start a wind up thread.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 25-Sep-16 18:03:17

Not a wind up

CarrotVan Mon 26-Sep-16 09:13:05

I think you have bigger issues than where to spend Christmas and second the suggestion of the Relationships board.

clam Mon 26-Sep-16 09:21:35

Then he'll just have to "un-tell" them. Or you phone them and tell them for him. Out-dictator him.

But I agree that you have much bigger problems than Christmas.

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