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Wanting to throw in the christmas towel....

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AJFsmummy Tue 22-Dec-15 13:38:45

k, I had a dinner party at my mums in Aug and as every year there is a family get together Christmas night, I offered (stupidly) not thinking how skint me and OH are going to be at Christmas as we have both set new businesses up, my DD is staying with her Dad C/eve and OH kids are with their mum this year......We have just done our month end finances and they are not looking good. Even a call I'm going to make to the landlord about difficulty paying rent is going to be a phone call I don't want to make ( I want to take another propranolol just thinking about it)

We have already got some food in etc and bits and bobs for the evening, and the other family members are bringing stuff but it's just one thing I cannot face - everyone getting on like everything is ok, my OH isn't exactly good at coping with stress he goes incredibly quiet and then when the next day it's straight back down to earth with the massive stress and struggle that's upon on us.

It might sound incredibly selfish but I am just not the kind of person that can laugh stress off, I don't want to drink much as that makes stress and my depression worse.

As we haven't got our kids until boxing day this year, I just want to curl up in a ball, eat Christmas dinner and go back to bed.

I feel so guilty for feeling like this, I just cannot get into the mindset / spirit of Christmas.

I have just emailed my mum now pretty much saying this, I'm expecting an email back with a capital-lettered-written-rant

herecomesthsun Tue 22-Dec-15 14:34:06

Hi, sorry things are so difficult.

Are you calling off the invite to your mum?

Would it just be you, your mum and your husband? Is you DD joining you on Xmas Day?

Is there any way you could have your mum over, but have a supportive, nice time together rather than a stressful one?

Minimizing the alcohol is a really good idea, because it will make you feel more rather than less anxious and depressed medium term, even if it is a bit pleasantly disinhibiting at the time.

Aldi and Lidl are great ways of having some of the Xmas bits without spending too much.

Hope it goes better than you are fearing. chocolate

herecomesthsun Tue 22-Dec-15 14:36:16

NB noticed the other thread in AIBU, I'm glad things seem to be working out.

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