Christmas ruiners(25 Posts)
I absolutely love christmas.
I live shopping, wrapping, the food, the activities, father christmas, panto, lights, everything!
However, I seem to have surrounded myself by 'ruiners'.
Went to panto today and 3yo dd was so wriggly and whingy that we ended up leaving after 40 mins
When we put the tree up the dog ran off and killed the tinsel, dh shouted and dd cried.
I went above and beyond at work for something Christmassy (I was asked to) but some of the old staff have complained that my way is not as good as the old way.
Dh hasn't bought me a present yet, he hasn't even asked for any ideas. I know he will grab me whatever next time he goes to a meeting in the nearest city.
All of my family are away/busy at christmas so I won't see any of them until the new year.
Is it okay to sob into my mince pies yet?
Oh Awoof I think we live in the same house with the same people.
My parents always called me Mrs Christmas and so do our 5DC and DH now.But bloody hell some years they make it so difficult,I sometimes feel like I'm living with the Grinch times 6!
Not great timing I know but maybe your LO is coming down with something?I know when ours have been a bit over sensitive and restless within a day they're usually poorly.Not great but would most probably be better to get any virus/bugs out of the way now if you can rather than right over Christmas.
With your DH don't wait for him to ask give him a list of what you want and give it him now.He still has plenty of times to order it all online and get it delivered and you can dress it up if you need to by saying you know how busy he is with work and how packed the town can get so you thought you'd save him some time and save him the stress of wandering around the shops trying to work out what to get you
With the tinsel killing dog(I loved that description) I have no ideas,we have 3 mad dogs and I can see them all ganging up on me and the tree when I go to stick it up.
Thanks I genuinely don't make a fuss out of much else but it makes my heart sink sometimes.
I absolutely love reading and sometimes contributing to the christmas thread, I'm glad it exists to keep my spirit going when the grinch's are getting the better of me!
With dd, yeah I think uou are right, she has been more tired than usual. Will pack her off for an early night soon and hope she wakes up herself again tomorrow morning
Ah bless you OP. Sorry you aren't surrounded by festiveness (is that a word?!)
TBF 3 is pretty young to be sitting through a full length theatre show, so maybe forget about that for a while - I know mine wouldn't manage it at that age anyway! Aside from the sitting still issue (my DD is particularly fidgety) they would be quite overwhelmed by a big loud production so we didn't do that sort of thing at that age. I'm sure she won't be the only restless child that had to be taken out either!
Can't advise on the tinsel-killing dog I'm afraid
Agree you should give DH
a good talking to a wish list if he's going to be useless - half-arsed presents for your beloved are Not On IMO.
Hope things get a bit more festive soon. <offers enormous glass of Baileys>
Hope the dog didn't eat the tinsel (that would make for a very interesting dog pooh )
I am surrounded by Christmas Haters at work (patients)
I know Christmas can be a lonely time.
I know some people don't celebrate it, whether for religion or choice.
But when they come out with "Christmas is too commercialised"
"It's one day"
"It's so over the top, children only want to play with the box/the wrapping paper"
I nod sagely while my brain is screaming "Well I love Christmas , so
feck off there "
But I make the obligatory correct noises and move on...........
My cat ate some tinsel once. Was half hanging out of his bum on Christmas Eve, so I trimmed off the excess and took him for a rather expensive trip to the vets. He puked in the car on the way home so I had to bath a rather grumpy and sore of rectum cat, while feeling totally unfestive as I'd spent all my Christmas Eve drinking money at the vets.
I'm not really sure of the point of that story, other than sympathising with you op. It sucks when your family and pets conspire to suck the festive joy out of it all.
Its annoying! I feel i do all the work, think of gifts post wrap hide arrange outings panto food shop amd organsie seeing friends attend kids fates and concerts. Everyone else rocks up and moans.
Might strike one year!!
Send your dh an email with links to what you want. Maybe give him choices eg this scarf or this scarf so you still get surprised on the day.
Carve out an evening to go shopping alone and spend most of the time having a Christmas coffee or getting your nails done ?
We seem to be having an attack of the grinch's in our house too.
I LOVE Christmas, always have - tree went up last weekend.
We were supposed to go to see Father Christmas today but the venue we were going to had to close due to the weather. Luckily my DS is 2.5 so was more me being disappointed than him.
Thought we'd have a Christmas snuggly afternoon of hot choc and festive films - DS has tantrummed, stropped & whined all afternoon even with Arthur Christmas on the tv and a mug of marshmallowy hot choc!!!
Just counting down until bedtime now
Aw a big festive hug to you all!
Sorry to hear of cats sore of rectum and stroppy toddlers!
Dh must have sensed something was up so has bought me an m and s ready meal and bottle of pinot, then asked me to send him a link to that thingy I want.
My dad also called and told me what a lovely job I was doing so I hid in the bathroom for a cry.
I suppose the humbugs/scrooge of the world don't realise how much it means to us christmas fans, but to me especially as a kid, was like a shining beacon of hope.
My family never had much money when I was little so to be given gifts and taken nice places because my mum and dad saved so hard means the world to me. Also daft but we could never really afford meat back in the day so having things like turkey and sausages and nice cuts of ham is still a big deal.
My mum had depression too but bugger me, that lady rallied at christmas time and put on a hellova show to make sure us kids had magic memories.
That's not daft at all childhood always has an impact on how you are with your own children, and Christmas is one of the things that amplifies it!
I suppose for those of us with nowhere to go, it's easier somehow if it doesn't feel like you're missing much. Although I wouldn't dream of saying anything out loud and I'm really trying to get a festive spirit. Can't avoid the feeling that nobody wants me around though, I have no family to celebrate, buying a turkey for one is wasteful and the ready meals suck.
Thst said, your DP is little, your DH needs a forceful prod in the right direction and I suppose it's a little festive that your dog wanted the tinsel?
I think once you have kids you have to massively lower you expectations about the Christmas season (ie it is never going to go like you imagined in your head!!) , there are plenty of times we don't do trips out etc because experience has taught me that I will be jollying everyone along and the kids will moan cause it is cold, or boring or they are hungry.
It is getting easier now mine are 7 & 3.5 - if the younger one is not up to an outing or trip I leave her at home and take the 7 yo. Once kids get a bit older they become the champions of Christmas and start wanting all the 'traditions' they remember from the previous years, I find that makes them more 'into' Christmassy family stuff (not just the presents!).
I also learned not to peak too early, my kids get ansy if the tree is in the house earlier than mid-Dec, they would nag me is it Christmas yet. We have a slow build up which seems to work better. At the moment they are happy with their advent calendars and a few Christmas books/movies.
I try to get my fix by going round the shops (on my own!), reading Christmas magazines, watching cheesy movies and buying the gifts, planning the food. Though last year I did over do all those, too much too soon, so I am pacing myself now!
Hope the next few weeks get more festive for you, there's loads of time yet!!!
I am surrounded by grinches. My teenage DS doesn't even want the tree up, OH says he'll be glad when it's all over, OH's teenage sons who live with him all seem to think it's all a load of crap, and even the local shopping centre has a desultory post-apocalyptic feel about it.
I suspect it's just everyone feeling the financial pressure.
I think sometimes we get an idyllic idea in our heads and real life Is often different. Like Christmas morning, last year I felt deflated as my children weren't sqeeling with joy ... life is unpredictable and I'm learning to just go with the flow now otherwise I end up down in the dumps
I think you need to think about what bits of exciting christmas will work for your family, a 3 year old is a bit too young for a panto, at least you'll know for next year! (I'd leave it until your DC is 5, perhaps look for something shorter like a gruffalo play)
You'll probably get more from it when your DD is a little older and gets what's going on, so gets all excited!
Tell your DH what you want, don't wait for him to ask. Even if you just say "I saw this thing that I really liked in whatever shop today, just in case you're stuck for an idea" to him.
Tell the work grinches that they can organise their own thing next time and do it themselves in whatever way they like.
Buy yourself your own treat, and wrap it or get it gift wrapped.
And plan some festive things that aren't quite as difficult for your DD to sit though.
A christmas walk to look at other people's lights, or in local woodland or a nice park with a flask of hot chocolate. Tell her it's a mince pie picnic or something.
You could even make edible baubles for the birds to hang on a tree when you get there. That could be a way to spend a festive afternoon at home, so two fun things in one.
Make a game of your walk by spotting christmas trees in windows as you walk (first person to spot gets a point) or play the alphabet game with christmas things as you walk (so instead of "I went to the shop" say "I want to the North Pole and saw an antler, a bauble, a christmas cake, a decoration, some eggnog..."
Or take her to a special shop or garden centre to buy an ornament, and have a Christmas treat in the cafe while you are there. Sing christmas songs in the car.
I'm sure you do lots of things like this anyway, but they can be just as festive and fun as an organised treat that costs a lot of money, like the pantomime.
We have a couple of local pantomimes too, that don't cost anything or only cost a couple of pounds. Our library is doing one, and it might not be a big fancy production but it should be just as much fun as the big one at the theatre.
An outdoor attraction she can run about at might work better than an indoor thing she has to sit down for while she's still young.
And you're not on your own, I love Christmas and all the decorating and shopping and card sending and fun stuff. People moaning about it just spoil it for themselves. If you get creative it's a lot of fun.
Sorry OP I have sympathy, but no amusing tales. Nothing can top Cat's Festive Arse. It's like Grumpycat making an effort
I like Hygge's suggestions - and I would like to add some self cheering christmas ideas
buy a set of chalk markers and :
draw snowflakes on the windows - and on the children and anything washable
draw a circle round a mince pie on the worktop with MINE! written in an arrow pointing to it ( fastest eaten pie on the planet) and "also mine !" and "still mine" - and "more mine"...( how many mince pies in a packet ?) not yours! - etc
make snowflakes out of tissues - throw them on the living room floor and make snot angels ( snot angels - because its s'not snow ! - I do love a bad pun)
turn off the heating and put one everybody’s (christmas?) jumpers t shirts - anything - all at once - stuff christmas crackers between layers - stupidest game of
pass "catch the parcel" - ever...
I think the trick is not to try to lead other people to possible fun...but to have the fun yourself...and see if others join in
like the cat - loving his attitude
Thanks these suggestions are amazing! Decided to walk the mile home from work with dd today, actually had the best time looking at all the houses done up with lights and looking up at the stars as we mooched
I've sent dh a link so something I would like, I know I'm married to him but I did feel a bit cheeky! Ah well, I will be super chuffed if he does order it.
Good news on work- a head of a different department has asked if I would like to come along to a meeting next week, he loved my work and would like me to go over to hq to sort out something cool for the managers do!
Also the lady who shares my office had hung a garland around my desk and stuck baubles to my chair
There is hope after all!!
Hmph, that'll teach me to try and do clever things on a mobile site
DH has his grinch moments but even he manages to put some decent thought into my Christmas presents. And that's not all down to my less than favourable reaction when, for my first ever mothers day, his gift choice was 2 tubes of Lansinoh ointment
I'm glad you enjoyed the walk home, and I'm glad your efforts at work have been appreciated. Christmas magic must be at work at last
Op my 3 year old has not sat still once in her life yet, I would never dream of going anywhere near a show with her.
we have xmas ruiners too. bores who get drunk and you have to sit and listen to them or they sulk.
one year the bore critised me for laughing.
we have a mil who says to every presents " oh but why do i want this? I dont need this" or to someone else " he doesn't need that he already has..."
then SIL who was so tight you could see her trembling with fear that she may have to spend a little tiny bit extra because its xmas, you could feel the stress and tension roll off her.
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