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Gift for a friend and her family who've suffered loss this year

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 04/12/2015 20:13

My dear friend had her DD in May then two days later lost her mum, she now cares for her teen siblings whilst also being a new mother to her dd...it's been utterly horrendous

I want to buy a small gift-along the lines of a willow tree ornament (I just can't find one Iove and means what I want it to)

Any ideas hugely appreciated

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ImperialBlether · 04/12/2015 20:20

That must have been so hard for her. Her siblings are so lucky to have her there. Does she have a partner?

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 04/12/2015 22:15

She's the most wonderful person...yes, her partner is hugely supportive and a wonderful man...they're both mid twenties and overnight he became a dad and took on two teenagers without so much as a bat of an eyelid


It's all so utterly shit

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Finbar · 04/12/2015 23:47

My good friend sent me a basket of cupcakes when our family had an awful bereavement. It was perfect for all of us including teens, and probably replaced some much needed blood sugar!

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 05/12/2015 07:25

Thank you, our friendship group did an ocado shop with a shit Ton of junk in when it happened so I'm looking for something permanent! teenage boys will eat anything not nailed down Wink

Sorry for your bereavement xx

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Daisydukes79 · 05/12/2015 09:32
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ChristmasZombie · 05/12/2015 10:15

How very sad. She must be feeling very strained.
Not an ornament exactly, but what about a tree for their garden? Something low maintenance! Maybe a fruit tree? Do they require much looking after?

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Avebury · 05/12/2015 19:37

What about a nice angel for her Christmas tree in memory of their mum?

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 06/12/2015 16:29

Thank you

I don't know if they're having an Xmas tree this year and I think they'll want to use "family" ornaments if they do so not sure about an angel

They lost their Nanna 6 weeks after their mum so it's really a shitty time (and I know there's a lot of guilt over it being babies 1st Xmas so they "should" celebrate even when they're grieving) and I just can't find something "right"

I do like the remembrance willow tree and from the range linked to above so will look further

Thanks all

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 06/12/2015 23:21

Bumping for anymore ideas xxxx

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 07/12/2015 11:37

Bump :)

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Cheshireblue · 08/12/2015 17:24

You can buy a rose bush called remember me - lovely to plant and see it flower each year. You can also get them called mum, grandma etc

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 08/12/2015 18:18

Thanks so much, I'll look into that

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daisydalrymple · 14/12/2015 20:24

Hi, so sorry to read of your friends loss, at such a time when she'd be wanting her mum more than ever. Not exactly permanent, but could you get a couple of outside big plant pots and fill with spring bulbs, for a sign of hope and new life with her dd. This might sound a bit weird, but Rosemary is for remembrance, so maybe a planter of that? And a winter candle that they can all light during advent for her mum?

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