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Well, that's really fucked Christmas!

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NoLongerTheSeasonToBeJolly Fri 12-Dec-14 16:48:38

No, it's not the lack of Monty and Mabel, (though that's annoying) or Yodel delays.

DH received a cancer diagnosis this week. We know he's going to need surgery but don't know if he needs radiotherapy or chemotherapy yet, we have to wait until he sees the oncologist.

I know cancer appointments are usually very quick but Christmas is bound to slow things down isn't it, I expect several clinics will be cancelled.

We're not telling the DCs until we have some more information which will be after Christmas.

How am I going to keep happy for them? I just want to cry. fsad

Stealthpolarbear Fri 12-Dec-14 16:52:37

I'm so sorry. Sending him wishes of a speedy recovery.
Shit timing but figers crossed all his treatment will be over by Christmas 2015

CaulkheadUpNorth Fri 12-Dec-14 16:54:44

I'm so sorry. Sending a hand hold and thinking of you all. Do you have supportive doctor/family who can help in this time?

Jenijena Fri 12-Dec-14 16:56:03

/hand holding

I'm so sorry this is coming your way.

Not much closes for anything other than the bank holidays, doctors will be working, so the delay should be minimal. And my experience (mum diagnosed twice) is that if they need to act fast, they do, but that sometimes extra weeks wait are to do with getting better opinions, looking at trials, etc. to work out the best combination of treatments.

Both Macmillan and cancer research UK have websites where 'don't read on if you don't want to' messages are clearly written on relevant sites. The Macmillan phone line was also really helpful to my mum in a similar position.

None of this makes a difference to the fact that you are going to be going through a shot time waiting.

It's shit.

Vix286 Fri 12-Dec-14 16:56:18

I am so sorry flowers

I don't know what to suggest re the DCs but I hope his treatment goes well, such a bloody shit illness

girlywhirly Fri 12-Dec-14 16:59:39

I'm so sorry, what an awful thing to have to cope with while trying to be happy and keep going for the DC'S.

Do you have people in RL to talk to, and could you ring a helpline if not?

youarekiddingme Fri 12-Dec-14 17:01:36

I'm so sorry. Have they given you an appointment date to discuss the next step yet?

CMOTDibbler Fri 12-Dec-14 17:02:30

I'm really sorry to hear about dh's diagnosis. IME oncology clinics run as normal apart from christmas day/boxing day, so things shouldn't be delayed.

Justyouwaitandsee Fri 12-Dec-14 17:05:36

What JeniJena said!

Many years ago my dad had a similar diagnosis just before Christmas. They decided they couldn't wait before operating, so we had a hastily arranged early Christmas, before they whisked him in. In the end, he was home again before the 25th and we got a second Christmas. Over two decades later, and despite subsequent follow up treatment, he is still here with us and back to full health. The NHS is truly marvellous in times of crisis, so hope that they manage to get your DH the treatment he needs.

Thinking of you all flowers

evelynj Fri 12-Dec-14 17:18:02

Sympathies to you OP. Agree with pps who said wait will be minimal. Take it easy on yourselves as will take time to get over the shock-hope you get some support & someone to talk to IRL. Thinking of you

NoLongerTheSeasonToBeJolly Fri 12-Dec-14 17:24:45

I think I'll feel better when we have an appointment date, I was waiting for the postman today and was disappointed by Christmas cards.

I have very supportive siblings but am missing my mum who would have come straight over.

I meant to buy tissues today and forgot, I'm sure there'll be a lot of tears to come. How am I going to stop them?

treaclesoda Fri 12-Dec-14 17:26:43

I'm so sorry. I don't have any experience or wise words to add, and I don't know what to say really, but I'm just offering a bit of a virtual handhold.

MehsMum Fri 12-Dec-14 17:44:13

No wise words, just flowers

Jenijena Mon 15-Dec-14 19:46:10

Thinking about you NoLonger..

duckbilled Mon 15-Dec-14 20:47:15

Thinking of you flowers

mumof6needssanity Mon 15-Dec-14 20:50:07

I'm sorry for you and your family.

NoLongerTheSeasonToBeJolly Fri 19-Dec-14 15:23:41

Thanks everyone smile, the hospital have just called. DH was due to be seen the first week in January but they've put on an extra clinic and he's being seen on Monday!

It's good news but we were just trying to blank it out over Christmas. Hopefully we'll get reassuring news and can relax.

I'll be having wine later!

Purpleflamingos Fri 19-Dec-14 15:25:14

Hope all goes well.

DamselNotInHerDress Fri 19-Dec-14 16:43:19

Fingers crossed for his appointment op flowers

twentyten Fri 19-Dec-14 16:45:53

So glad he's got an appt. not knowing is the very worst. Take one day at a time.thanksthanksthanks

IAmNotAPrincessIAmAKahleesi Fri 19-Dec-14 16:48:02

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine what you are going through

I'm glad to hear you've got an appointment for Monday, I truely hope you get good news. I hope you won't mind if I pray for you all xx

NoLongerTheSeasonToBeJolly Fri 19-Dec-14 17:38:11

I'd be very grateful Khalessi smile

blindcaptaincat Fri 19-Dec-14 17:42:47

Good luck for Monday. Hope you get the best news possible flowers

MinceSpy Fri 19-Dec-14 17:45:58

Good luck and keeping my fingers crossed for you.

wigglesrock Fri 19-Dec-14 17:49:35

I'll be thinking of you all, my Dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer 5 weeks ago, he had the tumour removed two weeks ago and has been home from hospital a week. We find out on Monday how aggressive the tumour was and what further treatment he will be having. I really hope you have positive news, take care of yourself as well. The worry is soul destroying.

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