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Does your dp/dh know everything that the children have?

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weaselsquirrel Sun 07-Dec-14 17:25:41

Mine doesn't he has not got a clue what they have or what I've spent. If it was down to him he would just buy a few plastic playsets from argos and be done. Would probably spend £50 tops on everything including pjs and stockings. I don't know why it bothers him so much because he doesn't spend a single penny. He is going to have one mighty surprise come Christmas.

Leeds2 Sun 07-Dec-14 17:29:57

DD is 16. OH always buys her main present if it is at all technical (e.g. phone, laptop). Otherwise, he knows what her main present is, even if I actually buy it.

The rest of it is just as much a surprise for him as it is for her!

Theselittlelightsofmine Sun 07-Dec-14 17:33:38

DH has no clue either grin

CMOTDibbler Sun 07-Dec-14 17:34:49

Yes, of course as we talk about it

Theselittlelightsofmine Sun 07-Dec-14 17:34:54

DH would spend a lot more than mesmile

weaselsquirrel Sun 07-Dec-14 17:36:25

Shall we swap husbands theselittle wink

disneymum3 Sun 07-Dec-14 17:40:26

I buy all the presents here, but I do tell DH everything that I have bought and who i bought it for. Only thing to don't tell him about is what the DC have bought him, what I have bought him, and what's in his stocking. DH does take the DC shopping so they can each buy something for me, and he buys something for me from himself, which he doesn't tell me about either so it's a surprise.

Iamblossom Sun 07-Dec-14 17:40:42

All the boys' presents will as much a surprise to dh as they are to them

Hulababy Sun 07-Dec-14 17:41:49

DD is 12y. DH knows DD's main gifts from us, and he choose one of them himself - something he knows she will love. He knows some of the smaller bits but not all. I tend to do all the buying online and they are then delivered to his office - so he sees them. The little stocking filler type bits he doesn't see. I also wrap them all.

But DH is very happy for me to be buying stuff. We have a joint account so it is all our joint money.

It works fine for us.

Ragwort Sun 07-Dec-14 17:43:17

Yes, DH has always bought the 'main' present for our DS (now a teen) and I tend to buy the stocking fillers. (Not that the money is 'separate' as we have a joint account grin).

My DH is much more generous than I would be when buying presents.

Artandco Sun 07-Dec-14 17:44:15

Yes, dh buys them stuff same as I do. Either if he spots something out, or online . Will discuss if main present

Degustibusnonestdisputandem Sun 07-Dec-14 17:46:09

Not quite everything, but most things. I am definitely Christmas present-zilla though and choose what everyone (including him) gets blush (even from my parents...)

turkeyboots Sun 07-Dec-14 17:46:31

DH knows as he would have bought the DC four times as much stuff given half a chance. So we agreed a list, he picked up some stuff in the US on a work trip and ordered the Big presents.

Caramelkate Sun 07-Dec-14 17:47:00

My DH definitely believes in Santa! The presents just magically appear. I sometimes ask him to get a couple of specific things that I know he will enjoy researching, and he will buy the odd thing he thinks a child will like, totally screwing up my even piles! However, I'm fine with that as I love doing it and he is very thoughtful and generous with my presents.

groovejet Sun 07-Dec-14 17:49:36

Yes we discuss it and he will buy bits if he sees something really good or on offer.
The only thing he doesn't know about are the girls presents to each other, he does the same. Not sure how that tradition started but quite nice to know that there are a couple of surprises under the tree.

Apricota Sun 07-Dec-14 18:09:35

Drives me mad. I started talking about christmas a while back, to avoid the unknown. However yesterday he was surprised that each child has (via me) brought each other a gift. Also that I have brought gifts for them, we have discussed butlittle action from him. He brought one. Well, I have brought gifts which are suitable when they are on offer etc. I showed him some of things yesterday and he was really surprised. It's normal stuff lego, books, clothes etc. each year he seems surperised and each time I say that you need to start early to get what is wanted and at a good price. Drives me potty. I thi k he would let them have a banana, a stick and perhaps one small gift for £5. I want them to enjoy and I love giving, we can afford it and so why not. Sorry for the rant, but your post touched me.

Sparklingbrook Sun 07-Dec-14 18:13:55

he's ordered most of it off the Internet. Football related mostly. <yawn> I get to do the smellies/chocolates/stocking fillers.

apotatoprintinapeartree Sun 07-Dec-14 18:15:38

He knows a few things, because I have told him.
He doesn't usually ask and I doubt if he'll remember.
I usually do everything for xmas though as its his busy time when he make most of his income.

Previous years and when dc were little he would think of things, discuss and collect them. he'll help with decs and go in loft to get them down.
Does a big shop towards xmas.

Poolomoomon Sun 07-Dec-14 18:18:39

Every time I've tried discussing it with him in the past I can see him kind of glaze over, not fully listenening and nodding and grunting along showing zero interest in what I'm saying so I stopped bothering and just started planning it all myself. Now he complains that I never keep him in the loop! hmm can't win...

He doesn't know most of what I buy, no. He knows the main presents because all DC talk about atm is how much they want them grin. He either sees the packages in the spare room or sees them for the first time on Christmas Day.

marne2 Sun 07-Dec-14 18:19:19

Nope, he doesn't have a clue, I do try and drop it into conversation but he's not really bothered.

CaptainAnkles Sun 07-Dec-14 18:19:45

I think I've told him most of it but has probably forgotten by now as I started buying bits a couple of months ago. Not so much a surprise for him, more of an 'oh yeah' when they open it.

vanillabird Sun 07-Dec-14 18:20:51

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Apricota Sun 07-Dec-14 18:29:54

Poolomoonmon....know just he you feel.

fuzzpig Sun 07-Dec-14 18:36:54

He doesn't as we are going along because I tend to do more of the Xmas shopping and don't necessarily check everything with him first. I really enjoy choosing presents so am happy to do most of the DCs' stuff although we do always discuss the bigger/main presents. He will still pick up the odd thing without me though if he sees something so he's not being left out grin he puts loads of effort into my presents too.

But there are some things he doesn't necessarily know about until it comes to wrapping!

SeeChooJimmy Sun 07-Dec-14 18:42:36

Yes we plan and shop together and dd1 prefers his taste in trainers to mine grin I would hate to do it all on my own.

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