Posted in AIBU by mistake - so am posting here now.
My MiL is 87, fiercely independent but increasingly frail - often tripping up, balance problems, eyesight not good, memory not good. She has insisted on cooking the Xmas lunch every year, every bit of it. It's DH's family - just 5 of us altogether - Me and DH (late 50's, early 60's), BiL (late 50's) and DD (18).
We were getting increasingly worried and frankly uncomfortable about her doing all this cooking, also getting in quite a tizz by the time we got there.
So last year, we suggested that we all contributed to the meal - she insists on having it at her place - won't go anywhere else - about an hour's drive from us. BiL = soup, Us = turkey, gravy, potatoes, MiL = other veg, bought xmas pudding, made xmas cake, mince pies - so still plenty for her to do. I have to say, it was a great success (we thought) - the turkey survived the journey and everything was hot and good.
This year - she says it was awful last year - she wants to do everything - "do we think that she's not capable?" "Is her food no good? "(!). Her kitchen is v small, so I don't think that us all pitching in with the cooking there would work.
I don't know what to do now. I worry that if she has her way, at some point she will scald/burn herself or worse - her hands visibly shake when she lifts a pan or takes something out of the oven (low down near the floor). Every time we see her, she has a new cut or bruise from where she says she 'tripped over her feet' etc etc - and that's just the ones we know about. And in our 50's and 60's we are not happy about being 'served' in this way. But she also wants to do it and is v proud about it!!
Any suggestions? Especially from anyone who has experienced this situation?
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debjud · 19/11/2014 09:40
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