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Are we the only ones who don't buy each other presents?

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Lurkymclurker Tue 24-Dec-13 15:57:10

Dp and I have decided not to buy presents again this year, we aren't hard up or rolling in it but we have £15 to spend on behalf of Dd (2) and that's it - we get presets from relatives and might get each other treats through the year.

We are both Christmas people an love the giving of gifts but just don't do it as a couple.

Are we odd as everyone I know is leading me to believe???

Oh and if you are interested dd has bought oh the cornetto trilogy on blue ray with ultra violet smile

canthaveit Thu 26-Dec-13 23:49:04

We do. I think it is important for the grown Ups to have presents to open, so the day isn't totally about the children

RRudolphR Thu 26-Dec-13 23:37:55

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Lurkymclurker Thu 26-Dec-13 23:32:28

Well dp ignored the budget and bought me a gorgeous locket and I ran out as a last minute thing and bought him Christmas Eve pjs and beer so romance isn't dead lol, we had gifts from adult friends and then later in the day family so dd saw us both give and receive and we had a really lovely day

Bunbaker Thu 26-Dec-13 09:49:41

"I wouldn't care about value of present just that he has thought about it."

I agree. One of the best surprises I got was a really good book that cost £1 in a charity shop. OH knew I would enjoy reading it but kept apologising that it was from a charity shop. I couldn't have cared less where it was from. It was in good condition and a great read.

kerala Thu 26-Dec-13 09:26:39

My awful truth is that dh has better taste than me in clothes. And we had picked out the bike months ago but decided against buying it as you couldn't fit child seat on it. But dd2 now so enormous that's not an issue. I wouldn't care about value of present just that he has thought about it. But every couple has different dynamics

Bunbaker Thu 26-Dec-13 08:45:42

"<whizzes off on my new bike present from dh and total surprise!>"

Now, I wouldn't have wanted a surprise bike as that is something I would have wanted to choose for myself - like clothes really. But I do like a surprise and got some lovely books and chocolates form OH that I wasn't expecting. I also got some photo editing software, but he asked me first if I wanted it, so that one wasn't a surprise.

kerala Thu 26-Dec-13 08:15:19

How unromantic! This is sad. Surely thinking about and getting thoughtful gifts is partly what Christmas is about. Highlight of day for me was dds excitement at their presents, second was dhs face when he opened his. Why would you not want to bring happiness to people you love? You've got the rest of the year to be practical and sensible <whizzes off on my new bike present from dh and total surprise!>

alemci Wed 25-Dec-13 18:29:44

buy for dh but tend to buy my own present and dh pays for them as he is so disorganised.

Bunbaker Wed 25-Dec-13 18:07:12

"I find present giving between adults rather odd."

Really. Why? If I didn't get any presents from adults I would get one Christmas present. I would also only have to buy for one person. I think that sounds rather sad and grabby, but I like to give my loved ones presents. And right now only one of them is a child.

stillenacht Wed 25-Dec-13 17:49:22

We don'teithersmile

Rufustherednosedreindeer Wed 25-Dec-13 17:44:27

Nope! don't do presents at the moment. The children are nearly 15,12 and 10 and the day is full of them

We may go back to presents when we feel we have the time to appreciate them, plus if I want something I will buy it anyway

CointreauVersial Tue 24-Dec-13 22:47:30

We do sometimes, but often we will buy something together that we both want or need.

A couple of years ago it was a new bed. The year before it was a camera.

This year we are actually exchanging presents, mainly because DH kept hinting about something he wanted, and I spotted a lovely coat on Zara, and pestered him to buy it for me!

utterly Tue 24-Dec-13 22:26:09

I thought my parents were odd for not doing big presents - but now I kind of get it. If we need things we buy them, so Christmas is for small extras.

Neitheronethingortheother Tue 24-Dec-13 22:17:52

We do a get each other quite a bit. I have gotten dh a hoody, cardigan, T-shirt, shirt, aftershave, book, CD and 2013 stamp yearbook.

Davros Tue 24-Dec-13 22:11:21

We do buy eachother presents and enjoy doing so. I think it's important for DD to see us exchanging gifts and thinking about what to get, not token crap. Doesn't have to be expensive although it is sometimes. My mum and dad always did and I think DH's parents did, even though they're Jewish. Also, we had some years with DS only who is severely autistic and, unless we got eachother something, it would have been a bit miserable. I suppose we just enjoy a bit of indulgence too!

PrimalLass Tue 24-Dec-13 22:08:09

We don't. We book a weekend away instead.

olibeansmummy Tue 24-Dec-13 22:04:14

We do because ds is an only child and I thing it wouldn't be a good thing for it to be allll about ds on Christmas Day.

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob Tue 24-Dec-13 21:43:23

Dh brings me cups of tea in the morning, better than any expensive gift. fgrin

LongWayRound Tue 24-Dec-13 21:35:34

According to this site there are 5 "love languages": words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts and physical touch. Apparently words of affirmation and quality time are the ones I value, with "receiving gifts" at the very end of the scale. Which is just as well, because DH and I almost never give each other gifts. He gets me a bunch of flowers on my birthday (this year he did it without being reminded grin), I bring him useful things like shoes and shirts when I travel to UK because the quality is better than what is available locally. Otherwise we'd rather spend money on travel or a meal out than on presents.

WorrySighWorrySigh Tue 24-Dec-13 18:41:48

We are another couple who dont give each other presents. It started before we were living together but getting ready to set up home. We bought each other near identical presents. That was around 25 years ago and we are still together!

DCs buy us presents and we do give suggestions for that.

It does seem silly to buy each other presents when the money will be coming out of the joint account.

sparklysilversequins Tue 24-Dec-13 18:31:06

Serious question moondog why do you find giving another adult a gift "odd"?

mumeeee Tue 24-Dec-13 18:29:46

I love buying DH Christmas presents and he loves getting me presents, We even do stockings for each other.

Skogkat Tue 24-Dec-13 17:05:04

We do a token gift, with a max spend of £3. Charity shops are useful for that though, so it ends up allowing us to give quite a few gifts.

ashamedoverthinker Tue 24-Dec-13 17:01:08

no we splurge when we want/need to it wud be just for the sake of it. but my dh has went n bought a token gift. i dont know why.

JewelFairies Tue 24-Dec-13 16:59:48

We either have a cap of 20 pounds, so it's more a token present like a book, or this year we've bought a present for us (fancy coffee machine we wouldn't normally have bought because our current one does the job fine).
No presents from dh would mean no present for me at all!

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