Are we the only ones who don't buy each other presents?

[Lurkymclurker]

Dp and I have decided not to buy presents again this year, we aren't hard up or rolling in it but we have £15 to spend on behalf of Dd (2) and that's it - we get presets from relatives and might get each other treats through the year.

We are both Christmas people an love the giving of gifts but just don't do it as a couple.

Are we odd as everyone I know is leading me to believe???

Oh and if you are interested dd has bought oh the cornetto trilogy on blue ray with ultra violet :)

[moondog]

No, we don't do presents.
If I want something, I'll buy it myself. Same for dh.
I find present giving between adults rather odd.

[choirmum]

We don't either. We're not particularly hard up but would rather spend a bit extra on the DC. We buy what we want/need as we go along and get presents from the family - that's enough for us.

[noswingpark]

No presents for adults here either. I would rather buy extra gifts for children than husbands horrible people

[80sMum]

Dh and I don't give each other presents. We're not hard up, just decided several years ago not to buy for each other. Works for us!

[BikeRunSki]

We don't
It's not so much a money thing, as a DH has no imagination and can't be arsed thing.
I have another thread going because it means that I get no presents at all!

[80sMum]

Me too BikeRunSki! But that means I don't have to pretend to like something that I don't want, don't like and don't need just because some poor soul has scoured the shops trying to find something to give me because they felt obliged to!
The no-present Christmas is very liberating! Leaves me free to choose and buy my own stuff when I want.

[BrokenFairylights]

Each to their own, if you're happy not buying your DH presents that's fine. I buy my DH presents he buys me presents that's just how we are. Christmas is not just about children it's about giving those you care about a little something too but then I buy everyone presents - but that's just me

[Sparrow8]

We just buy something small for the kids to give to us.

[StrangeGlue]

We buy for each other and I'd hate not to. but this isn't something there's a right thing to do on and buying for your partner certainly isn't odd (as so someone said up thread)

[MrsHappyBee]

Just said on another thread no presents for us this year as we've spent a lot on other things recently. I'm never getting sucked into buying loads of crap ever again.

[Kbear]

we buy presents from the kids but I have bought DH a toblerone to take to work as he is working Christmas Day!

[Indith]

We don't do presents between the two of us, we would rather use the money to go out for a meal together at some point which is a feat we manage around once a year during years when I don't have a small breastfed child waking for feeds.

[LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob]

We have this year, but it`s the first time in years. I tend to buy what I need and dh does the same.

[msmiggins]

We tend to buy things that we really need or are practical- ie stuff that would be bought anyway. I have bought my OH some new work shoes- he always likes the same size and style so I know they will fit, his old ones are cracking up. Things like PJs, yes chocolates, a case for his new mobile phone.

He does the same for me- practical presents which were needing bought anyway. I think it's nice for the kids to see parents exchanging gifts, and be involved in buying them too.

[honeybunny14]

We buy alot for each other this year i have an ipad new clothes underwear and perfume make up set and a few surprises but thats just us there were alot of years we couldnt afford to get each other its like we are making up for it now

[specialsubject]

us too - no Xmas, no birthdays. Got out of the habit and saves a LOT of hassle.

[HopelessCaseNumeroUno]

We haven't done presents for each other in years, though this year we are and it is lovely.

[JewelFairies]

We either have a cap of 20 pounds, so it's more a token present like a book, or this year we've bought a present for us (fancy coffee machine we wouldn't normally have bought because our current one does the job fine).
No presents from dh would mean no present for me at all!

[ashamedoverthinker]

no we splurge when we want/need to it wud be just for the sake of it. but my dh has went n bought a token gift. i dont know why.

[Skogkat]

We do a token gift, with a max spend of £3. Charity shops are useful for that though, so it ends up allowing us to give quite a few gifts.

[mumeeee]

I love buying DH Christmas presents and he loves getting me presents, We even do stockings for each other.

[sparklysilversequins]

Serious question moondog why do you find giving another adult a gift "odd"?

[WorrySighWorrySigh]

We are another couple who dont give each other presents. It started before we were living together but getting ready to set up home. We bought each other near identical presents. That was around 25 years ago and we are still together!

DCs buy us presents and we do give suggestions for that.

It does seem silly to buy each other presents when the money will be coming out of the joint account.

[LongWayRound]

According to this site there are 5 "love languages": words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts and physical touch. Apparently words of affirmation and quality time are the ones I value, with "receiving gifts" at the very end of the scale. Which is just as well, because DH and I almost never give each other gifts. He gets me a bunch of flowers on my birthday (this year he did it without being reminded ), I bring him useful things like shoes and shirts when I travel to UK because the quality is better than what is available locally. Otherwise we'd rather spend money on travel or a meal out than on presents.