We have 3 sets of parents to accommodate (mine are divorced).
Every year we upset someone usually my mum because we struggle to fit them all in. We end stretching Christmas out to the 28th/29th Dec and have 3 Christmas dinners with varying amounts of gusto from the parents. This might sound good to some of you but DH both work lots, and spend the rest of the year and most of my adult life actually trying to spend fair and equal time with them all so come Christmas and the fact that DD has a December birthday, we are pooped and want to spend time together rather than running around trying to please everyone.
It used to be fiddly but now DD (she'll be 2 by then) is here too it's even worse.
Christmas has become the elephant in the room; no one wants to mention it...
DH and I have toyed with the idea of inviting everyone here, stepfamilies and all but there are some sensitivities and politics, not to mention other arrangements that might make that tricky. Plus I'm kind of loathed for that to be the only option as I fear we could end up having to host every year!
Alternating years would probably work if there were two sets but with three sets three years seems a bit much.
Having the day with just me, DH and DD is ok but not vastly different from a normal weekend day plus I feel sad st the thought of my parents eating Christmas dinner alone (albeit in couples) and I know they don't love it either.
I know a lot of this is throwbacks from feeling (unnessarily) guilty as a kid for having to split Christmas between parents but don't want DD growing up hating and dreading Christmas like I do did.
What the bloody hell do we do?
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ChickenLickenSticken · 12/09/2013 22:41
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