So this year we are FINALLY spending Christmas at home with just me, DH, DD1 and DD2. I'm pregnant with DC3 and due in February so this will be nice to be in our own house too. In years gone by, we have spent Christmas with family. Usually a few days with my parents, including Christmas day then a few days with DH's parents from Boxing day. This usually involves us being away for around 2 weeks. It ends up being very trying as well as tiring and we're always glad to get home.
Our parents don't live close by, but it takes them about an hour to get here. We have agreed that Christmas day and boxing day are strictly no visiting and have told our parents this. PIL said fine and as they are having visitors themselves, they may not visit until 29th or 30th. When I told my parents, my mum said 'no..we'll come see our grandchildren if we want' in a half jokey way. I told her that they could come but I wouldn't be opening the door at all. So far they've not mentioned which day they're coming on.
The problem I have is this: dd1 stayed with them at the weekend, when my dad brought her back he was telling her they'd see her at Christmas and maybe stay over at a hotel . I had mentioned a one day visit only, as I know they'll be up around new year too. I am not keen on this happening as my parents have 3 foster children, as well as my brother, and our house is simply too small to accommodate everyone. I will just about have the energy for one visit, nevermind two in a row. My parents visiting makes me on edge for various reasons anyway, I'm currently suffering from depression and I just want one christmas where we are spending it as just us. I think I'm also expected to cook a meal when they visit, which wouldn't be too much of a problem I suppose but we hardly have much money as it is and I'm not wanting to be cooking for 10 people, as well as us not having the room to seat everyone to eat.
I know I must sound awful, but I was really looking forward to having a quiet Christmas, with one visit from either side. Am I being really harsh? How do I deal with this?
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EricNorthmansFangBanger · 03/12/2012 10:12
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