I posted about six weeks ago saying that DH and I had decided to stay at home for Christmas this year and how happy we were with our decision (we still are!). Inevitably, however, having broken this news to my mother, it's gone down like a shit sandwich.
To give a bit of background, we've spent the past four Christmases with my Mother and for the past two she's moaned and grumped about 'still having to do a family Christmas when you're all pushing 40' - that's me and my sister and our three step-brothers. Last year was a total nightmare as she made a huge fuss about providing a buffet lunch on Boxing Day for everyone and their kids and made everyone's lives hell, my brothers and their families feel unwelcome, and kept banging on about how her cats were frightened by all the noise. The cat issue is brought up ad nauseam every time she has any of the GC in the house and the three of us who have kids are heartily sick of it and feel she prioritises the bloody cats over her GC and step-GC.
My Dad and step-mum, OTOH, make everyone welcome, don't differentiate between blood- and step-relations, and their two large dogs are shut in another part of the house, out of everyone's way.
So now I've told her we're not coming and she's all upset and says she's prepared to do 'one final Christmas', but I know she only wants to host me and my sister and families and not the boys and theirs. I've made a stand and said she's either got to include everyone or no-one as anything else isn't fair. This morning I had a message from my step-dad saying he wants to 'discuss Christmas'. I just don't want to discuss it further - I've said my piece and I'm fed up of the subject already. And it's only mid-Oct. sigh
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juneau · 15/10/2012 13:38
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