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I am not sending Christmas cards for the first time this year

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Sparklingbrook Sun 07-Oct-12 22:35:34

How do you tell people that you aren't when you don't see them? I have email addresses for some but not all.

salthepal Fri 11-Dec-15 15:06:15

I find it fascinating that many folk who make a point of not sending Christmas cards like to say that they give money to charity instead.
It seems to me that the two things are not connected. One may send cards and give to charity, do one or the other or do neither.
I once had a friend say please would we not send her a card since she was not sending any to us but would we donate towards a goat for some needy people in Africa. A noble cause no doubt but a bit of a cheek. She didn't say that she was giving a bit of goat either. That rather got my goat.

Lorefolk Wed 10-Oct-12 11:38:16

Totally agree that sending cards to people you see all the time, eg work colleagues is bonkers. We only send cards that go in the post box. I would, however, find it hard to stop doing this as 80% are to relatives/friends, all older than us, who do not live nearby and do not see our (young) DC and we do send them a picture with the card. I do this because I think an older/elderly person quite likes this and it's not too much effort on my part. Am I wrong? (We could stop the 20% though).

YouMayLogOut Wed 10-Oct-12 00:24:34

I wonder whether "Graham and Jean" might send some very jovial Christmas cards to anyone overheard to say they're not doing cards any more grin

deleted203 Tue 09-Oct-12 23:53:47

I'm considering sending a Christmas card to my parents and writing inside it, 'Hope you have a lovely Christmas, Best wishes, Graham and Jean'......purely for the evil pleasure of watching my mother go, ^Graham and Jean? Who are Graham and Jean? Were they the couple we exchanged addresses with when we were on holiday in Malta last year? He had a dodgy hip and she collected teapots....or is it someone we met at Shirley's do you think? Have we got them on our Christmas card list?' Mwaahaha....grin

vamosbebe Tue 09-Oct-12 22:16:00

It's Christmas cards only for us this year, only giving presents to children (so, all of 4 then!) sad

NorksAreMessy Tue 09-Oct-12 22:12:46

do not waver, sparkling

Unfortunately, bad news travels fast. If you had been abducted by aliens, we would know sad

I had this fun last year smile
Sick to our resolve. You have nothing to lose but a silly list of undergraduate friends, old neighbours, relatives you don't like and people you see every day. Anyone you truly love will KNOW that you love them anyway.

Throw off the stamps, discard the lists, come away from the 15% charity donation. Decorate your house with things that give you pleasure...not nasty bits of glittery cardboard.
Reject the primary school mafia of card giving nonsense.


Sparklingbrook Tue 09-Oct-12 18:24:22

Not sure Pickled. I have just read Rule's post and now worried people will think something horrible has happened to me. sad

But probably Macmillan will win.

PickledFanjoCat Tue 09-Oct-12 18:21:22

What have you decided sparkling?

Ignoramus or wanker?

RuleBritannia Tue 09-Oct-12 17:44:24

Unfortunately, If I don't receive a Christmas card from a particular person here and there, I fear that the worst has happened. Sometimes it has. Not everyone has access to a computer or the knowledge of how to use one at the Library.

Sparklingbrook Tue 09-Oct-12 16:40:21

I would love to ethel. That would be a bit rude though. So I pile them up then in the recycling on Boxing Day. grin

ethelb Tue 09-Oct-12 16:13:45

If you don't send cards do you refuse to receive them as well?

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 13:16:03

That would be an amazing accolade.

Get on the blower to Dragons Den!

Cant believe some of the misery gutsing on here. Bah, Bah, Humbug.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Oct-12 13:02:03

I certainly didn't invent giving to charity just at Christmas believe me.

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 12:59:07

Charity christmas cards have been around for donkeys years and most of the ones I get are charity ones. What difference does it make if its an e card?

Surely its better to send something nice to open on email, and make a PRIVATE donation which is not needing to be disclosed to a charity than eff all?


susiedaisy Mon 08-Oct-12 12:58:46

So glad I found this thread I find Xmas cards so pointless and have manage to reduce the amount I send to close friends and family, might even go a step further this year and just abandon it altogether, I have always struggled with the sheer waste of paper and the costs involved in producing and delivering them, glad there's others that think similarly smile

halloweeneyqueeney Mon 08-Oct-12 12:54:54

I agree don't send a wanky pious "I'M DONATING TO CHARITY INSTEAD"

if you wanna give to charity, give to charity, its a private choice and FYI we send cards and give a lot to charity every christmas (food drive, money, gifts to refuge etc) so I am not impressed by people who think they just invented giving to charity at christmas once they stopped sending cards much!

Just don't send cards and wish me merry christmas if you see me or maybe a text/email etc if you wish

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 12:53:24

grin I dont want to be wanky at christmas!

I had 15 bloody cards from colleagues the other year. Did one of these, took me 10 mins and they had a happy time playing with the bells.

I was NOT accused of any yule tide or festive wankerdom.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Oct-12 12:49:51

Thanks Pickled. I really don't want to be wanky especially at Christmas. I think Macmillan is a good charity to donate to as well. x

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 12:48:33


PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 12:48:14

Sparkling its not as wanky as saying that your not sending cards but you are giving to charity.

You just send an e card and it has santa larking about on there or the baybee jesus if your religious, just like the charity cards you buy in the shops.

An Example

[[ MacMillan]]

It just saves you the arse of writing, posting and killing all the poor treez.

Now really, thats not at all wanky. Really.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Oct-12 12:14:55

Yes I think I will just send the email and not mention the charity bit now.

Ephiny Mon 08-Oct-12 12:13:22

I never bother with cards. You don't have to make a big performance of it, just don't do it!

I don't think you need to text/email people to tell them you're donating to charity confused, why would they need/want to know that? Just text/email to say Happy Christmas if you're not going to see them in person.

MarjorieAntrobus Mon 08-Oct-12 11:13:38

Some years we haven't got round to cards at all. Other years we have only got halfway throught the address book! Some years we start the address book from the other end to even things out! Nobody ever says anything.

I do really think it is a huge waste of time and money, apart from farflung old friends, and the elderly rellies' expectations.

MarjorieAntrobus Mon 08-Oct-12 11:08:31

Why do people send cards to people they see so often that they can actually utter the words, "Happy Christmas" to them in person?? Colleagues, neighbours, school gate pals etc... I've always thought that was bonkers, and a trifle needy.


flubba Mon 08-Oct-12 11:00:01

A couple of years back I didn't send cards for much the same reasons OP and also because I had a newborn and toddler and couldn't be arsed but I sent e-cards through Blue Mountain or someone similar. You could do the same and add your 'charity donation' bit in there? Less Bah Humbug than nothing and people can't complain! grin

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