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Do you give presents from the baby/toddler to their GPs/DA/DU???

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Sleepyspaniel Fri 19-Aug-11 13:58:44

I have realised that we have fallen into a habit of giving birthday and Christmas presents, to adult relatives, from our young children. Does anyone else do this?? I can't make up my mind if it's nice or crazy!! I think it started when I did a handprint thing for DD1's 1st Xmas, which was quite a nice thing to give to GPs and aunties/uncles but now every birthday and Christmas EACH adult relative gets a seperate gift from the DCs confused along with seperate cards from the DCs (aunt/uncle/Grandma/Grandad Christmas cards).

It feels a bit much and TBH i'ts expensive and a pain in the butt to buy 10 extra presents from the kids to the adult family members in their lives for each birthday and Christmas. OTOH the family help look after the DCs, babysitting etc and buy the DCs nice pressies so it feels like I should give something from the DCs in return.. But I buy each adult a generous gift for birthday and Christmas from us anyway, not just slippers/dressing gown variety but leather handbags/luxury items sort of gift.


CherryMonster Fri 19-Aug-11 14:04:40

the only adults in my family who get seperate gifts from the kids are my parents and brother and sister. to be honest, i dont really send presents to the rest of the family anyway, only to my cousins kids.

SenoritaViva Fri 19-Aug-11 14:05:57

We give a present from the whole family. Eg Dear Granny Love from Senor, Senorita, Senorita Jnr, Senor Jnr

Meglet Fri 19-Aug-11 14:06:17

Hell no! Cards + presents come from all 3 of us. Individual cards + presents are too much of a faff.

The only exception to this would be if the children make a card / present for someone.

Sleepyspaniel Fri 19-Aug-11 14:11:09

I knew it!! I knew I shouldn't have got involved with the "individual presents at Christmas from the DCs" thing. PLUS my DH loves it if we get presents that say "grandma/grandad/auntie" or whatever on them, so it can't just be a box of chocs. I need to find a way of putting a stop to this. But how?!? Also, the grandparents definitely expect a grandma & grandad card to put on the mantelpiece. Maybe we should just keep up with the cards and ditch the presents? confused.

Treats Fri 19-Aug-11 14:12:17

We gave the DGPs a framed print of a selection of our 15 month old DD's 'artwork' last year, as a gift from her, which went down very well. I think anything they've made is lovely, but I wouldn't dream of buying anything from her to them.

The only exception I would make is for my brother - he's single and childless, but always very generous to me, my sister and our respective husbands and children, so it seems a bit mean to just buy him one present from the three of us back. I'll usually spend a bit more on him anyway, but if there's something quirky that I think he'd like, I'll get if for him from DD.

Treats Fri 19-Aug-11 14:14:20

Can your children make the cards sleepyspaniel? Something handmade would mean more than a purchased card, and they might be so pleased to receive something that the children have spent time on, that they might not notice the lack of an accompanying present.

twinklytroll Fri 19-Aug-11 14:17:38

No, we don't really do adult gifts tbh. I certainly would not buy a gift from someone not old enough to choose the gift.

My dd does chores to earn money that she can use to buy gifts if she should wish.

addictediam Fri 19-Aug-11 14:18:04

I second a hand made card from dc and 1 present from whole family.

frasersmummy Fri 19-Aug-11 14:22:41

at birthdays I buy a main present and a small token such as sweeties. Ds gives granny, uncle however the sweeties with his card.

At xmas its one present from us all

littlemagic Fri 19-Aug-11 14:23:09

I used to get a present for grandparents, auntie, uncle etc from the kids and a separate on from us. But now they get just one present and two cards. One from us and one from kids. Its far to expensive to by them all two presents. Would rather spent the money i save on the kids x

twinmummy24 Fri 19-Aug-11 14:23:48

sorry, we do gifts from our DD's aged 4,
this doesn't usually cost us very much, mostly some craft project that i have turned into gifts, painted wooden boxes, neclaces or framed hand prints, this year i have bought a bulk load of plain white tea towels and some fabric pens so will be letting them get creative grin it has cost less than £40 for the lot and will do presents for about 20 friends and relatives.
oh, i have also done salt dough tree decs with them and given them as gifts.

Sleepyspaniel Fri 19-Aug-11 14:24:35

Yes... good idea Treats. DD1 is at least of an age where she can make something with help. DD2 too young but can add a handprint. Yes. Good! Will make them nice and early!! Same for birthdays.

HarrietJones Fri 19-Aug-11 14:26:42

Gps yes, aunts & uncles no

Sleepyspaniel Fri 19-Aug-11 14:29:36

Lots more replies, thanks!! The sweeties thing with a card is nice. See, I immediately put pressure on myself to think "just a few sweeties isn't enough, I;''ll have to go to Thorntons and get an icing message piped on a chocolate flipping teddy that MIL probably won't eat anyway". No more!! A handmade card and maybe some small sweets. Good.

chirpchirp Fri 19-Aug-11 14:30:52

DS is 9 months, the only person who gets a present from him is MIL. She helps out lots with childcare and it's her first GC so she absolutely dotes on him. At Christmas she got a mug with DS's foot prints on it and for her birthday we got a cheap canvas from a craft shop, then did a few of DS's hand prints on it and them made them into flowers by painting leaves and storks below them. I think we will continue to give presents to MIL but it will all be stuff we've made rather than forking out for a more expensive gift.

How old are your kids? Could they help you bake some biscuits for extended family members if you do want to continue giving gifts?

TheHumanCatapult Fri 19-Aug-11 14:31:44

my mum and stepdad ( only grnaparents they have )get presents of my kids that is it

superjobee Fri 19-Aug-11 14:37:13

my sister does it and it annoys the shit out of me! more for the fact she expects us to do the same but when we give gifts they are from superjobee and family not superjobee and bigjobee then one from mini poop.

anyone else done it it wouldnt annoy me just my stupid sister grin

acatcalledbob Fri 19-Aug-11 14:44:07

I make a calendar for the next year with photos of the DDs and grandparents get this - partly because it's habit, partly because we live far far away so don't see them at Christmas and partly because I want one too. I use photobox, takes a bit of time but worth it imho.

I think it all started when DD1 was in nursery and every November a photographer would come in and take portrait photos of the kids so GPs would get a print of that from her.

twinklytroll Fri 19-Aug-11 14:45:49

We do calenders and foodie things but they are from all of us.

MrsSawyer Mon 22-Aug-11 14:08:01

well we do cards for grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousin etc, (we have a cheap card shop near us, card factory) so its not expensive and to be honest with presents, its either one thing from all of us or lots of little things (think niece aged 8!) and some are from us, some from DS1 and (soon to be) DS2, she loves getting presents from her cousins.

nappyaddict Mon 22-Aug-11 15:11:19

No only family presents. Start as you mean to go on!!

Also any adults who are in a couple and living together get a joint present. Single people or non-cohabiting couples get seperate presents.

justcallmemummypig Sat 27-Aug-11 14:25:58

ooh where did you get the plain white tea towels from twinsmummy? DC give gifts to their grandparents but they are always all homemade, am looking for some new ideas!

Murtette Wed 31-Aug-11 13:32:15

Cards for all individually as they seem to really like it but I always get the cheap one! 1st Christmas present for each set of grandparents was a print of DD's hand/foot, last year was a photo book of her first year (buy one, get one half price - still quite expensive but they loved it), this year am planning a calendar although may nick the framed art work idea & am hoping that from next year DD will be able to make (or assist in making) things. Uncles tend to get one of those pointless books which come out around Xmas as stocking fillers which they seem to appreciate as it gives them something mildly amusing to read whilst family tensions mount!

TeaOneSugar Thu 01-Sep-11 07:54:40

Presents for gps now come from dd, rather from us, so they still only get one present as they did before we had dd, I didn't want to get into the two present thing at all.

They do get a calendar with photos of dd as well though, so I suppose they get a bit more.

Now both my brothers in law have dc I only buy for the dc, that present comes from all of us.

I have one auntie (of mine) I buy for (box of chocs/biscuits type of thing), and I only do this because my mother always bought separate presents and I took over from her.

I try not to add people to the list, in fact I've cut it back in recent years, I buy for DH's godson, but not his parents, I don't buy for friends dc anymore and we've stopped buying for the dc next door.

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