when i was growing up, we had tiny token presents in our stockings and a main present from mum.
now my dds are 6 and 8 and i would love to do the same thing for them. i find the whole writing to santa thing causes problems, as they then have the expectation that santa will bring what they would really like, not just some bubble bath and choc money!
if santa gets the credit for the main present, then surely you end up buying another main present from you (as parents). this then gets very expensive!
but we dds are 6 and 8. they give presents to me and dh. they love to give each other presents. they know we get presents for other family members. they know that there is this thing that people do called Christmas Shopping... and yet we supposedly dont get them anything??
If they're that clued in about gift giving are you sure they still truely believe in Santa?! I'd have said that you put little gifts/choc money etc in stocking and there's one main gift from Santa. Then if you want to get a 10-15 pound gift from you then would that be ok?
hmm.. i think they do believe, although my 8yo is getting suspicious. i def couldnt get items with shop labels that she recognised, or she'd def realise.
we are going to lapland soon- not primarily for the santa thing, but for the skiing. 8yo dd said "will it be the actual father christmas, or just some old man in a stick on beard. i will be able to tell, you know". so ironically, it may be visiting the REAL santa that puts the nail in the coffin, as far as believing is concerned.
Dd's stocking only contains token gifts because they are from Santa.The larger toys she asks for are from us. My older ones have more expensive gifts in their stockings but they don't have the huge pile under the tree. Dd never questions it and the older ones like to preserve the magic for dd so wouldn't draw her attention to it either.
Santa brings stocking and all gifts here. ds also gets one present from me (usually whatever is most expensive and it's usually something he hasn't asked for especially) and presents from friends/family which go under the tree as we receive them.
Ds makes a list of 4 items he'd really like and writes his letter to santa with the list of four things. He knows that Santa will bring one of these (possibly more but only guaranteed to bring one) of them. Has been relatively easy as list usually included things like jigsaw and sticker book. Now he's getting older it has more computer games on it!