I have 4 brothers. They are all married with children. Eldest brother has offered to host Christmas. We will spend Boxing Day with ILs.
DH's family is one sister and his parents. It is his sister's 'turn' to go to her MiLs for lunch on Christmas Day. They have no children, her MiL is on her own, so no other siblings etc to take into account. So the MiL could just as easily go to SiL's house, where DHs parents could go too. But SiL has refused to do this saying her MiL 'won't like that'. SiL's MIL (if you are following) is quite inflexible and difficult. So my DH's parents are now alone for Christmas dinner.
So I can't see that happen (they are lovely) and so I'm missing my family Christmas to host them for lunch.
So I feel resentful that because the one person in the whole set-up, with whom I have no connection, with the least cause to be inflexible - the single MiL, with no grandchildren or other adult children to consider - won't budge from her 'turn' system, it means I'll miss my family get-together.
Don't know whether to suggest to SiL that she take a harder line with her MiL (and her DH) - 'I'm not leaving my parents alone or disrupting others' plans, so Xmas lunch is at my house and you are welcome, if you can't be flexible, you'll have to spend it alone rather than everyone else fitting to you whims'. But then I feel I'm intruding on their marriage and arrangements.
But leaving my ILs alone for lunch is just a non-starter - SiL's initial response was that they have friends they can go to so that's OK!
What to do?
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alfabetty · 29/11/2010 06:53
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