I’m the aromantic asexual who’s thread was taken down and I don’t even know why AMA!

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IWillFindYou Wed 22-Sep-21 13:58:39

So I posted it, checked day later no questions, next thing it’s gone.
I have no idea what happened or was said.

So, let’s do this again.

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HopeMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 22-Sep-21 14:06:00

Hi there,
Do you want to get in touch with us via the Report button and we can discuss it?
Cheers!

WheelieBinPrincess Wed 22-Sep-21 14:10:25

Do what again?

IWillFindYou Wed 22-Sep-21 14:15:20

WheelieBinPrincess

Do what again?

The AMA part.
I don’t know what went wrong the last time.
So if someone has questions.

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IWillFindYou Wed 22-Sep-21 14:15:52

HopeMumsnet

Hi there,
Do you want to get in touch with us via the Report button and we can discuss it?
Cheers!

How does that work?

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WhatsAppening Wed 22-Sep-21 14:17:00

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GemmaRuby Wed 22-Sep-21 14:18:07

I read the title as aromatic, I was very intrigued! Thought you might have a special interest in smells. Am less interested now, sorry.

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IWillFindYou Wed 22-Sep-21 14:20:27

WhatsAppening

What possible questions or interest would anyone have about your lack of relationships or sex life? Genuinely no one but you finds it interesting or wants to discuss it.

I guess I’m starting to see why my first thread was removed.

Me being aro/ace isin’t a personal insult towards you, don’t be so rude.

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backoffice Wed 22-Sep-21 14:24:19

I’m not sure what there would be to ask - unless I’d accidentally married you and you’d only just “found yourself”.

Yummypumpkin Wed 22-Sep-21 14:25:44

Do you get sick of people challenging or questioning your decision? How did you come to this identity/decision.

I'm sorry someone was so rude. It seems you're allowed to be gay, in an abusive relationship or transexual but being a sexual leads some people to believe they can write horrible posts to you.

KateTheEighth Wed 22-Sep-21 14:25:59

I'm not really sure what to ask tbh

I don't like Grand Prix and I'm not keen on mangoes but I wouldn't start a thread on it

JaneJeffer Wed 22-Sep-21 14:26:06

What's aromantic?

WheelieBinPrincess Wed 22-Sep-21 14:28:21

I have no idea about your thread and you've not given any context here so I’m not sure what you want people to ask.

Crack on and be aromantic or asexual, I’m not entirely sure it’s of great interest to others.

AnneLovesGilbert Wed 22-Sep-21 14:28:49

Instead of waiting for questions why don’t you share what you find interesting about yourself?

What’s your favourite colour?

Where do you like to go on holiday?

What’s your greatest achievement?

What do you think of romantic sexual people?

I’m not being horrible, I don’t know why I’d have anything to ask you about your relationship preferences so why not just talk a bit and share stuff about your lifestyle?

JaneJeffer Wed 22-Sep-21 14:32:01

Are you going to answer anyone then?

GreyhoundG1rl Wed 22-Sep-21 14:32:29

WhatsAppening

What possible questions or interest would anyone have about your lack of relationships or sex life? Genuinely no one but you finds it interesting or wants to discuss it.

Well, quite...

lynntheyresexpeople Wed 22-Sep-21 14:32:38

I don't know what you want people to ask? It's no more of interest than me saying I'm married, ask me anything. Your relationship status doesn't define you.

GreyhoundG1rl Wed 22-Sep-21 14:33:23

Me being aro/ace isin’t a personal insult towards you, don’t be so rude.
But nobody actually cares? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pagwatch Wed 22-Sep-21 14:34:31

what is it that you think people might be interested to know?

Journeyofthedragons Wed 22-Sep-21 14:36:47

KateTheEighth

I'm not really sure what to ask tbh

I don't like Grand Prix and I'm not keen on mangoes but I wouldn't start a thread on it

grin

Wrongsideofhistorymyarse Wed 22-Sep-21 14:37:53

backoffice

I’m not sure what there would be to ask - unless I’d accidentally married you and you’d only just “found yourself”.

For a moment I was wondering if my XH had found Mumsnet.

TheQueef Wed 22-Sep-21 14:40:30

Agree about Grand Prix.
An AMA on how shit Grand Prix is would be good.
I misread too Ruby thought thread would contain cooking tips for some reason.

IWillFindYou Wed 22-Sep-21 14:41:29

Yummypumpkin

Do you get sick of people challenging or questioning your decision? How did you come to this identity/decision.

I'm sorry someone was so rude. It seems you're allowed to be gay, in an abusive relationship or transexual but being a sexual leads some people to believe they can write horrible posts to you.

Yes, I absolutely do!

I always knew I definitely don’t want to have sex, so that was the easy part, didn’t always have name for it, that I learned later.
And while I was reading about asexuality, there was also information about aromanticism.
And that is how I discovered that about myself.

Aromanticism was more difficult, because I always thought I wanted a life companion, I still do, but I didn’t know people have specific romantic attraction towards others.

Thank you
And I agree.
I have come across others before who get irrationally angry/annoyed/defensive about this.

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IWillFindYou Wed 22-Sep-21 14:42:27

JaneJeffer

What's aromantic?

Person who doesn’t feel romantic attraction.

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