Wow! So many questions- I didn’t think people would be so interested! I just know that when I first found out I needed information and honest real information was hard to find so thought maybe this could help someone.
AllTheWayFromLondonDAMN Definitely not! I barely even drink alcohol. Have never tried any drugs and never would, I just don’t feel the need!
To try and answer more questions..
I didn’t know when we got together. I was very naive.
I’m older so my children have left home. Obviously they don’t know but they understand he has problems.
Wearywithteens no actually probably more towards the train spotting end although I have to say that’s nothing like the reality I know and I now know many many addicts.
He can survive on twice a day but functions better on 3 times - more than that and he’s taking the piss!
Yohoheaveho it’s a thing they do... nearly all of them do “snowballs” so they mix the heroin and the crack and inject it together, the crack takes you up and the heroin brings you down again but it kinda works together to be a better hit apparently.🥴
Regarding legalisation - I would definitely say no. It’s like cigarettes are legal but you still get them half price from the Turkish shop illegally, in the same vein you’re never going to really monitor it. They need help, but help to understand why they do it and find other coping strategies otherwise they’ll kill themselves. I would say at least one if his friends has died each month I’ve known him...it tragic! But many of them feel ( because I talk to them a fair bit) that this is their life and will never be better, so fuck it!
Owllovestea It’s not hard really, I mean it’s frustrating and expensive but a hundred times easier than living with an alcoholic! It’s doesn’t really affect his personality- he just uses enough to “keep him normal” I’ve only seen him “off his head” when he’s smoked weed, and I hate that! Honestly a bit of heroin is so much easier to live with! Sounds ridiculous but true!
It frustrates me because i know he could have a more fulfilling life if he could stop. We’ve tried so many things.. so many! He now believes the only way to stop would be to move away and I’m unsure about doing that because if it doesn’t work then I’ve given up everything. I guess I’d just come back though!
He’s had a tough life. His mum was 14, she sold drugs to get by, he’s never known a life without being surrounded by drugs and alcohol. She died when he was 19 and he’s never really had parental guidance so I suppose I feel sorry for him. Of course I love him, we have a great time together and laugh a lot and because my children are older I can afford the energy to put into him. I could give up any time I wanted to and maybe I will. We’ve only been together a couple of years, but maybe just maybe he might make it through and that would be so bloody amazing!
I’m not sure it’s better than being single because I love being single but it’s interesting and I’ve learnt so much in the last two years. I think he’s worth the effort for now but if nothing changes and he gives up on himself then I’ll have to leave for my own sanity. He does understand that I need time alone sometimes just to breathe! It’s easy for people to say leave but the addiction is only a part of him, a part we both hate! We are kind of united in our fight against it but at the end of the day I believe it’s just luck that I’m only addicted to cups of tea with oatmilk rather than smack! I was lucky that I didn’t have his life because I I had I don’t think I’d be here now.
Covidaintacrime only difference is the prices went up at first! I’m pretty sure the police don’t really care! It’s so damn obvious when you know it’s hard to believe they could stop it all really.
Turnedouttoes - if we’re ever in a different town and he needs to score he’ll just ask someone that’s begging if they know where to get stuff... if they speak English they know where and for a small cut they’ll normally take you.
