Just as it says. I'm non-monogamous, or polyamorous - I've seen a lot of posts on here being incredulous and/or disparaging of open relationships, and feeling a little grim about that, so, opening myself up to whatever questions people might have.
Are you on the ASD spectrum? I'm not trying to be rude but I knew 3 people at uni who were poly and I suspect they were all on the spectrum. One definitely was. I'm wondering if that was a freaky coincidence or if there's a pattern.
My husband is not, and yes he does know. I was previously in an open relationship with a man who is also non-monogamous, when i met my husband.
I was open with him from the outset, and we fell in love very quickly. After a few months he told me that even though he'd tried, he wasn't able to manage it. We broke up for a bit, and i thought long and hard about what i wanted. I chose him, and we're now in a monogamous relationship and have been since that point.
I suppose i see non-monogamy in the same way i do being bisexual (which i am also) - it's an inherent part of my identity, regardless of my relationship status.
Are you on the ASD spectrum? I'm not trying to be rude but I knew 3 people at uni who were poly and I suspect they were all on the spectrum. One definitely was. I'm wondering if that was a freaky coincidence or if there's a pattern.
As above, I'm currently in a monogamous marriage, and i have a child. If my husband was comfortable with non-monogamy i imagine we might be in an open marriage, but i can't say for sure.
No, I don't have any diagnosis of ASD nor have i ever been suspected of it. I did have depression as a teen, if that helps.
As i said upthread, i consider it to be an inherent part of my identity, regardless of my relationship status. I'm no less bisexual even though I'm married to a man, and I'm no more monogamous despite only being with my husband.
Your not non monogamous if your in a monogamous relationship fgs sounds like you had fun with others before you settled down with your husband normal part of life .
Have you seen the Netflix "You ,me,her" and if so, what do you make of it? Is it fairly accurate in terms of attractions and not being jealous of your partners and being frank with each other.
The problem here is that all the questions that people would wish to ask would all be directed towards a non-monogamous person in a non-monogamous relationship. The fact that you're in a monogamous relationship is almost like saying "I used to be a vegetarian, but now I eat meat - ask me anything".
It's not interesting or unusual to have explored the idea of non-monogamy, but the fact that you've now chosen to be monogamous means you are by your very nature now monogamous
So at present you are non practicing non monogamous. I can sort of understand.
Did you or do you miss being in an open relationship when you decided to be monogamous to your partner.
I do, in a way, miss it. Sometimes i meet people i have chemistry with, people I'd otherwise persue a physical or emotional relationship with, but i made a commitment to my husband and i did that with my eyes open, and i stand by that choice.
The problem here is that all the questions that people would wish to ask would all be directed towards a non-monogamous person in a non-monogamous relationship. The fact that you're in a monogamous relationship is almost like saying "I used to be a vegetarian, but now I eat meat - ask me anything".
It's not interesting or unusual to have explored the idea of non-monogamy, but the fact that you've now chosen to be monogamous means you are by your very nature now monogamous
Well, i spent many years in non-monogamous relationships, one with the same primary partner for 3 years, and i still consider myself to be non-monogamous, just as i still consider myself to be bisexual, despite being committed to a man, hopefully for life. It's not something I've grown out of, or stopped feeling.
But, but the thread title is 'I'm non monogamous' ?
I am very confused.
I'm fairly certain a large proportion of people reading this were non monogamous before they got married. I think that's how human beings work. Isn't it?
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