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I have had affairs with men I've met on kik AMA

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Inboxofglory Sat 26-Oct-19 12:23:35

Pretty much that.

Appollo11 Fri 06-Dec-19 19:41:41

eed advice...I met a guy on tinder and we hit it off straight away. Slept with him on 4th date and it was amazing. Couple of weeks in he admitted he had a girlfriend that lives approx 100 miles away. Says they are just friends and he’s known it’s over for a while. Problem is they have a big holiday booked for January to Australia ;his daughter lives there and he hast seen he for quite some time). He says as soon as they return he will end it. He goes to her house in a Monday afternoon and returns Wednesday. I stay some nights at his. We go out at weekends, see each other in the week and generally have a normal relationship when he’s home. Should I trust him and wait or am I wasting my time. I keep changing my mind...I haven’t introduced him to my family friends or children because of the situation. Any advice would be appreciated.

AloneLonelyLoner Wed 27-Nov-19 12:18:32

@Yankeesocks

Worst human being

Seriously? You are truly blessed in life of the OP is the worst you've come across. Congratulations!

OP, only 4?! That takes some doing. You could have a different man every night. How did you select?

Bluerussian Wed 27-Nov-19 04:15:57

Appollo, I think you had a thread about this before. It seems familiar. Is your chap the one who is or has been very ill?

I'd never heard of kik before. I want to voyeur on it to see what the people are like. I have to say it sounds dangerous but the op has only met two men out of whom she has slept with two.

Appollo11 Wed 27-Nov-19 03:17:58

Need advice...I met a guy on tinder and we hit it off straight away. Slept with him on 4th date and it was amazing. Couple of weeks in he admitted he had a girlfriend that lives approx 100 miles away. Says they are just friends and he’s known it’s over for a while. Problem is they have a big holiday booked for January to Australia ;his daughter lives there and he hast seen he for quite some time). He says as soon as they return he will end it. He goes to her house in a Monday afternoon and returns Wednesday. I stay some nights at his. We go out at weekends, see each other in the week and generally have a normal relationship when he’s home. Should I trust him and wait or am I wasting my time. I keep changing my mind...I haven’t introduced him to my family friends or children because of the situation. Any advice would be appreciated.

BeverlyGoldbergsHairAndJumpers Sun 17-Nov-19 21:44:25

What do you say on the phone to them to make it safe?
You:Oh hello.
Him:Hello.
You:Are you a rapist or killer?
Him:No
You:Meet you at six at Sainsbury’s, I will be the one with no pants on

Inboxofglory Sun 17-Nov-19 21:36:55

Always meet in a public place and speak on the phone prior.

Watch out for red flags, someone seeming controlling or aggressive.

Its just like Internet dating, there are fruit loops, scary types and nice guys in the mix.

Many men and women are on there only for the chat

lovethesunshineways Thu 14-Nov-19 13:05:25

I'm just starting out on this journey! I'm a bit concerned about meeting up with someone and them being a total nutcase tho 😬

FavouriteSoul Tue 12-Nov-19 18:39:42

What a sad way to get out of an unhappy marriage. You must have very low self-esteem. Any one of us could sign up to one of these sites and within seconds, be inundated with men pestering us for 'dates' - you'd have to be a bit dim to think you're anything special.

DrCoconut Tue 12-Nov-19 18:29:55

Did you meet my STBXH? 😂😡

Widowodiw Mon 11-Nov-19 14:36:47

@Inboxofglory don’t you worry about your safety when you meet up. I’m widowed and am on Kik because I have no other means of dating anyone, I’m not interested in a relationship I just want some excitement. However, I would be nervous as hell about hooking up with a weirdo despite months of messaging someone. Just my luck!

Yankeesocks Mon 11-Nov-19 14:30:06

Worst human being.

Inboxofglory Tue 05-Nov-19 11:22:38

Yes, that's a good point actually.

For a man to cheat he has to be willing to pay, for a woman the odds are in your favour so you have lots of choice where ever you go.

The advantage of a married dating site is everyone is open about their situation, and most of the profiles state that they aren't looking to change their situation.

This isn't always true, and not true in my case although I didn't know that when I started.

Cheating is addictive. You discover the high of meeting new people, being wanted sexually and often bringing back into your life things that have either disappeared or never been there.

I wouldn't cheat though if I was in the right relationship. In fact, I would never cheat on my affair partner, as ironic as it seems.

truthcheck Mon 04-Nov-19 05:58:35

Name changed to post here

To readers, lots of cheaters also meet willing partners on sites like fetlife and fabswingers as well as conventional dating sites like pof that they just use for hookups. Don't be fooled by thinking people only find each other through kik. The odds would be higher for meets thorough other sites.

DeeCeeCherry Mon 04-Nov-19 01:24:44

It might have been a good AMA if you sounded interesting. But you don't. Your replies are short and don't give enough detail to inspire curiosity about the lifestyle at all.

You are bored, and boring.

OooErMissus Mon 04-Nov-19 01:12:45

LOL. I find work colleagues are usually good for a coffee.

No need to go on some dodgy website to find people to do that with.

Inboxofglory Sun 03-Nov-19 23:04:40

I met about 4.

Mostly just for coffee. A couple for more.

jelly79 Sun 03-Nov-19 22:20:45

Why haven't you left your husband already? (Rather than cheating)

Wherearemymarbles Thu 31-Oct-19 13:56:38

So how many men did you meet?

Inboxofglory Mon 28-Oct-19 13:42:55

Married men because you have as much to lose as each other, and understand the constraints.

No, he doesn't.

I will leave my marriage soon. Cheating has shown me what I have been missing out on for too many years.

I'm not the morality police, people cheat for their own reasons and if a man has made that decision then I'm not going to second guess him.

I'm on kik, but not looking for an affair. I have one.

PixieDustt Mon 28-Oct-19 12:18:24

Its safe sex. I cheat, I'm not stupid.

are you not? 😂
*
And actually I've stopped doing it, my kik days are over*
Stopped what? Having affairs or just Kik?

RhinoskinhaveI Mon 28-Oct-19 11:20:43

95 men to 5 women
I think lots of people forget this, men very rarely get lucky.
They probably get pretty angry though because they are lured in by the promise of 'lots of hot young women want to have sex with you'
Truth is that a small number of women on these sites can pick and choose from a huge numbers of men and so only the hottest fittest men are going to get any action

Whatwouldbigfatfannydo Mon 28-Oct-19 10:00:13

I cheat, I'm not stupid.

Ahahahaha gringrin

Alrighty then! thlbiscuit

changedmyname2019 Mon 28-Oct-19 09:38:44

I'm probably going to get flamed here too. But I feel like I could have written this post too.

However it hasn't ended well at all. And I've only my self to blame.

MissPepper8 Mon 28-Oct-19 09:32:58

Why don’t you look for single men? If you are going to have an affair then that’s yours and your husbands business but god pick someone single

Because men can lie?? Alot of them do of they're trying to seek some sort of anonymity.

Iwantacookie Mon 28-Oct-19 09:30:46

Why married men?
Why not go for single men?
Does your husband know?
Why dont you end your marriage?

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