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"Being fairly isolated where we live in terms of close…"
Being fairly isolated where we live in terms of close family I am very grateful at every oppurtunity I can where someone is willing just to offer their time, whether it just being adult conversation, a hand with popping into town or just keepin an eye on the kids to have time for a bath or something else we used to take for granted.Read moreLess
"this is the best gift of all, to be there…"
this is the best gift of all, to be there for a new parent and offer help and support even if it is just to be on the end of the phone!Read moreLess
"Definitely the best gift anyone can give. A hot meal…"
Definitely the best gift anyone can give. A hot meal on the table without washing up to worry about. Time for a bath that lasts more than 2 minutes without having to worry about the baby. All these and more were invaluable to me in the first few weeks, and since!Read moreLess
"My friend gave me a babysitting voucher when my first…"
My friend gave me a babysitting voucher when my first ds was born........I smiled sweetly and said thanks......4 weeks later, I realised that this was probably the best present I received!Read moreLess
"This is absoutely the perfect gift for any new parents…"
This is absoutely the perfect gift for any new parents - particularly a breastfeeding mum - the luxury of a bath you don't have to leap out of after 2 mins as baby has woken up. THe perfect thing my sister did for me was agree that once a week she'd take my baby for a walk for an hour or so. it was just one or two hours but it was fantastic...the deal was that i wouldn't spend it on housework or tidying, but on a bath or reading a book or meetinga friend for coffee. I think it may have saved my sanity!Read moreLess
"Offer to take any older children to the park, home…"
Offer to take any older children to the park, home for tea, out for a special treat etc. Even if only for an hour.
Knowing that they are being given some special attention takes some of the guilt away for spending so much time with your newborn!Read moreLess
"Giving some practical help is so much better than a…"
Giving some practical help is so much better than a gift, especially if it is not their 1st DC.Read moreLess
"Ocado are very happy to deliver groceries to your friends…"
Ocado are very happy to deliver groceries to your friends and family who have just had a baby. I ordered a load of stuff - from nappies, to easy to cook meals for my friend who was really struggling to be delivered (there was of course wine and chocolate as well as nappies) and it went down really well. It saved my friend a struggle to the shops with twins and was much more welcome than an offer of babysitting etc (her babies were PFBs so no-one was getting within six feet for a looong time!)Read moreLess
"Do not discount the offers of help from people other…"
Do not discount the offers of help from people other than family/close friends. I have a wonderful neighbour, who although I knew only to say hello to before my baby was born, made a point of telling me to ring if ever I needed any shopping etc. as she was at the supermarket each day after the school run. Turned out to be invaluable some days when I discovered to my horror I was down to the last nappy & couldn't face dragging a hungry baby out!Read moreLess
"This is far and above the best gift to receive…"
This is far and above the best gift to receive and most appreciated gift to give.
I offered time to my best mate when she had her second child, William. Be prepared, often accepted immediately so we had her DD (1yrs old) and DS (10 days old) so she and husband could have some much needed time to selves.
They loved it.
(and we managed, justRead moreLess
"Vital, but rare!…"
Vital, but rare!Read moreLess
"If they have older children, offer to take them to…"
If they have older children, offer to take them to the park, or something like that. If the mum is spending a lot of time indoor (breastfeeding, recovering from a cs, being a sleep-deprived zombie etc) then taking the older children out in the fresh air and wearing them out would be a real help.Read moreLess
"Particularly useful when there is already a child is offering…"
Particularly useful when there is already a child is offering to take older child for a while, bringing a meal or cake (home made - we can all manage to buy something). Babysitting needs to be offered by those close enough for new mum to feel confident....Read moreLess
"This is by far the most useful 'gift'. My family…"
This is by far the most useful 'gift'. My family were around whenever I needed them (although never interfering) and were happy to look after my daughter when I needed a rest. My mum helped look after the house and got me out for walks in the first week or so which was a huge boost. Presents were nice, but it was all the help which was so touching to receive.Read moreLess
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- TwentiethCenturyHeffa has been a Mumsnetter since Jan 2008
- Number of Children: 2
12 reviews posted
5 Mumsnetters found them helpful
"There's nothing more precious at this time than sleep. Even…"
There's nothing more precious at this time than sleep. Even a half hour shut eye was much appreciated. Now my baby is 4 months old and see's her gran for a few hours every week and that time to myself is something to look forward to.What use are gifts when you are too tired to appreciate them.Read moreLess
"Invaluable. I had food brought over, time to go and…"
Invaluable. I had food brought over, time to go and sleep, a tidy kitchen, an adult face and conversation! Much more than any present.Read moreLess
"My mum came and looked after us for the first…"
My mum came and looked after us for the first week when ds was born and it was wonderful. She cleaned and cooked and did the washing whilst I was in hospital, so I came back to a clean house with no housework to do and some meals in the freezer ready for reheating. Simply wonderful. The best gift we had - apart from ds of course.Read moreLess
"My best friend was "given" the gift of a postnatal…"
My best friend was "given" the gift of a postnatal Doula 3 times a week after her baby was born. It was a wonderful support for her as she has no family nearby. The doula helped her establish feeding, showed her how to bath and change baby, cooked meals, went to Tescos and took baby for a walk so my friend could rest. I am so having a Doula if I have another DC!Read moreLess
"Despite how many people warn you how tiring life with…"
Despite how many people warn you how tiring life with a newborn can be, it's hard to contemplate the extent of it until you've experienced it! Such was the case for me and I found it overwhelming at times. The most precious gift I could ever have hoped for was a few weeks from my own Mum, who travelled halfway across the globe to help us out in the early, sleep deprived days (and nights). Aside from the practical help, I really believe that my son and my mother share a special bond because of it.Read moreLess
"Anything that saves you energy after having a baby and…"
Anything that saves you energy after having a baby and gives you some quality time to relax is a real pick me up.Whether it be spa treatments, home help, nights out with friends.All good to boost ypur self esteem.Read moreLess
"By far the very best gift!!!! Even better if your…"
By far the very best gift!!!! Even better if your friend or reli is specific and when, what and how long they can help for eg Sat afternoon for a month. One the hardest things about being a new parent can be agonising about if its OK to ask for help or if you should be just getting on with it even though you are more tired then a tired thing!Read moreLess
"People who come to your house and immediately set about…"
People who come to your house and immediately set about making you a cup of tea, instead of waiting for you to offer one to them, are a godsend!
Simple things, like offering to take any other DCs out for an hour or so are also appreciated.Read moreLess
"The best gift of all definitely. A good friend to…"
The best gift of all definitely. A good friend to come and stick the washer on, cook something for dinner and hoover,....bliss, especially after the inital euphoria of the first couple of weeks when you are just exhausted.Read moreLess
"a home cooked meal, delivered to the door, at teatime,…"
a home cooked meal, delivered to the door, at teatime, is a pretty good bet for any new parent!Read moreLess
"I have offered my best friend and her husband a…"
I have offered my best friend and her husband a free "baby-sit" for their little girl and three week old baby. They are going out on Valentines night (ahhhhh). My mum (bless her) is looking after my little one so everyone is a winner. Being a single mum helps on Valentines - I don't go out!
I also take their little girl out for an afternoon at the weekend to give them time with the new arrival.Read moreLess
"My parents came to stay for a week when my…"
My parents came to stay for a week when my daughter was first born, then went home for a week and came back again and it was just the most amazing help. I realise this wouldn't be possible for everyone and it does rely on the parents/visitors being the sort who are 'low maintenance' and know what needs doing without you having to spell it out to them. Luckily for me my parents are! It was great to have help with practical stuff (eg washing nappies, preparing some of the meals & clearing up after) and also to cuddle new granddaughter, which wasn't a big hardship for them ;-) but enabled me to get washed/dressed etc (& even occasionally to have a nap) as to begin with whenever she was put down my daughter would cry. It was also great that they were able to go and come back again - it was good for us to have a bit of space and time on our own but great to have them back again. If they lived nearer then I guess it would be easier to arrange more regular but less intensive help.Read moreLess
"Time and help is the most valuable thing I was…"
Time and help is the most valuable thing I was given in those first few weeks. It wasn't so bad when hubby was on paternity leave, but as soon as your left alone with baby even the most minor things can overwhelm you. Just knowing that someone else has done the washing up etc really does help!Read moreLess
"My goodness - what a wonderful present this would have…"
My goodness - what a wonderful present this would have been! Much as I enjoyed opening cuddly toy after cuddly toy and more babygros than we could ever manage to get him in before he grew, my life would have been made so MUCH easier by someone just popping by and dropping off a lasagna, or offering to pick up some shopping for us. New mums (and dads!) need help. Even if someone had come round and taken him off my hands for 30 an hour so I could enjoy a bath or, God forbid, have a poo in peace!!! Yep, this is the u;ltimate new mum pressie.... Don't think you are intruding by offering your help - a new mum is so hormonal and sleep deprived she'll soon tell you when you've overstepped the mark ;-)Read moreLess
"I would just love this. I would love to have…"
I would just love this. I would love to have a calm bath!Read moreLess
"Very useful, so long as you actually get on with…"
Very useful, so long as you actually get on with the person offering the help/time and it is not a cunning ruse by a MIL to stick her beak in.Read moreLess
"when my twins were born, the best thing was friends/in-laws/parents…"
when my twins were born, the best thing was friends/in-laws/parents taking the babies out for a walk once they had been fed. this gave me a good two hours to nap without listening out for the bambinos.Read moreLess
"This gift is the gift that i would have loved…"
This gift is the gift that i would have loved best of all but never received,even an hour of me alone time would have been great,even just to have a relaxing bath.Read moreLess
"I couldnt agree more with this. When i had my…"
I couldnt agree more with this. When i had my first ds i would have loved for someone to come round and say i am cooking dinner or doing the washing up etc or even make me a cup of tea instead of having to run around after the hoards of visitors, try and keep bubs happy and house tidyish!
I loved one of the other posts which suggested a book of vouchers which you could spend (fantastic!!)Read moreLess
"A voucher for a cleaner or an hour or two…"
A voucher for a cleaner or an hour or two for new mum to have some sleep time.
This is a gift that many people would not think to get for themselves and dont like to admit they need help.Read moreLess
"definatly appreciated the help and time given from friends and…"
definatly appreciated the help and time given from friends and family after the baby arrived. simple things like bringing round a meal or my mum coming up to help me keep on top of the housework.
it was nice that when my husband went back to work, i didn't feel under too much pressure as i had a support network.Read moreLess
"Just somebody offering to help is a godsend - whether…"
Just somebody offering to help is a godsend - whether it be with your elder child or with shopping , cleaning , ironing or even monitoring your newborn so you an try and have a relaxing bath or shower.
A babysitting voucher for when you feel you are sane enough to go out is wonderful. I used my friends ' voucher' when dd1 was 1.5 and it was worth the wait !
The cleaning help 'voucher' however was gone within a week !!Read moreLess
"Having friends and family offer to do specific tasks ,…"
Having friends and family offer to do specific tasks , prepare meals, do laundry, take older children to and from school is such a gift straight after the birth of a new baby. It really helps you get space for you and your new baby.Read moreLess
"The best gift I received, was to come home from…"
The best gift I received, was to come home from hospital to a spotlessly clean house and freshly laundered sheets etc. My Mum had blitzed the house in my absence. I would definitely do the same for someone.Read moreLess
"Definitely the most useful gift for new parents. My parents…"
Definitely the most useful gift for new parents. My parents live in another country but our Inlaws were around the corner. They would only come around by invitation, but we would have appreciated a couple of home cooked dinners to see us through the first early days. It's something I keep in mind for friends with new babies as well. When my mother did visit, she cleaned out the cupboards, mopped and did laundry every day. Priceless gift really.Read moreLess
"What a wonderful idea.…"
What a wonderful idea.Read moreLess
"I had loads of family squabbling over DS1 when he…"
I had loads of family squabbling over DS1 when he was sleeping, and would have been SO grateful if anyone had thought to wash up or hoover!! A voucher for this is a precious thing....Read moreLess
"If you can offer help sensitively, and let the new…"
If you can offer help sensitively, and let the new parents understand they can ask for it in 2 months if they don't need it straight away, it is a great gift.
It's important to be sensitive to the wishes of the new parents. If they don't normally iron their knickers, it's not much use wading in and doing that (well, you wouldn't but I hope you see my point).
Frozen meals might be nice but check for preferences and intolerances first.
It's tempting to take over babycare if you are a veteran but why not let the new mum and dad find their feet and do other things that will be useful - maybe moving laundry along or giving the kitchen a blitz.
If you are too far away to help, why not contact a post-natal doula in the area.Read moreLess
"Get the new mum three fab pairs of pyjamas and…"
Get the new mum three fab pairs of pyjamas and tell them to wear only these in the first five days. Pyjamas give that subtle hint to everyone else that you need looking after and that you should be resting. (More feasible with first borns)Read moreLess
"We did not get any gifts as new parents. Looking…"
We did not get any gifts as new parents. Looking back, if we could allow mil visit us for a few days and help out the cooking, that would be invaluable!Read moreLess
"Offering to let a new mum sleep for a bit…"
Offering to let a new mum sleep for a bit while you mind the new baby or giving her the opportunity to go out for a walk or just sit and veg in front of the TV. The biggest adjustment to make as a new parent is not being able to just get up and go at will!Read moreLess
"Buy new parents vouchers to the cinema/local theatre and then…"
Buy new parents vouchers to the cinema/local theatre and then offer to babysit!!! This was one of the BEST gift we got as it meant we HAD to make the effort to spend time together!!!Read moreLess
"Invaluable. I have worked with alot of new and second/third…"
Invaluable. I have worked with alot of new and second/third time mums and i wish id have had this support for me first and second time around! Giving times means so much mroe than champagne and another babygro!Read moreLess
"A babysitting "voucher": I would have adored such a thing.…"
A babysitting "voucher": I would have adored such a thing. Someone's time is much more precious than a material gift.Read moreLess
"When I had my daughter I would have swapped all…"
When I had my daughter I would have swapped all the gifts in the world for some help during the first few exhausting weeks.
As a gift I now give new parents a homemade booklet of vouchers. There are vouchers for ironing, cleaning, shopping, babysitting and cooking. Sometimes we had daft things to it like 'I'm so tired - feed me, bathe me, dress me'. It started out as a bit of a laugh but now my friends all want one!Read moreLess
"A babysitting "voucher" is a fab idea for any new…"
A babysitting "voucher" is a fab idea for any new mother to have the opportunity to have a babysitter for any night they want to go out or even catch some sleep.Read moreLess
""Like most new mothers, I found that suddenly I had…"
"Like most new mothers, I found that suddenly I had no time for me, so the gifts I appreciated most were friends and family offered to come round and help. This meant time to sleep, enjoy a meal or even just have a shower without the door open listening for the intercom." "Give your friends a voucher with a promise to clean up their house cook them a meal, take the kids out or do a pile of ironing. Tell them they can cash it in any time in the next two months - the perfect gift for new parents!"Read moreLess
"This has been by far the most useful "gift", particularly…"
This has been by far the most useful "gift", particularly after my husband's paternity leave finished and I was on my own at home with baby Sonny. My mother-in-law would have him on a Thursday morning every week, which meant that I could go and have a beauty treatment (using gift vouchers I'd be given!) or go and get my hair cut, or sleep, or...well, basically whatever I wanted to for a couple of hours without distraction. It was very useful to book it in advance so that I could look forward to it, and plan for it. It is doubly kind (if possible) if you can collect and return the child, as I found that trying to get all his stuff ready and then taking him and collecting him was almost more exhausting than just looking after him myself!Read moreLess
1 person found this review helpful.
"The most valuable and appreciated gifts after either son was…"
The most valuable and appreciated gifts after either son was born were from those people who came and gave me their time - helping out around the house, feeding me and my family or looking after ds1 when ds2 was still small and needing constant attention. I appreciated this far more than any amount of cute baby clothes or little-needed soft toys.Read moreLess
"The babeswithbabies babysitting voucher is that it looks like a…"
The babeswithbabies babysitting voucher is that it looks like a gift - something tangible and pretty - nice touch!Read moreLess