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"Helps you actually change your parenting behaviour…"
I received a copy of this book to review, and was cautious about it, as I have read a lot of parenting books.
I am a fan of NLP, as I have seen it work very well in a work context, but was unsure how it would work in a parenting context.
The book was a welcome change to the usual parenting book format - I am tired of reading prescriptive lists of what I MUST do and what WILL work, combined with anecdotes about what one person did with one child.
This book has a set of exercises and explanations which allow you to work through different topics, analysing the way you parent, why you do things that way, how you would rather do things, and finally, explanations of how you can make that change.
It is written in a very straightforward manner, unjudgemental and not forcing any particular parenting-guru agenda. What makes it special is the way that it shows you how to use NLP techniques to actually change your behaviour. A lot of what goes wrong in parenting is buried down in our habits and instincts - and can't be changed by just 'knowing' we should do it differently. This book shows you how to challenge the inner beliefs and habits that you want to change - and also how to help build positive beliefs and habits in your children
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"a book for every stage of parenting…"
I hav realy enjoyed this book and would recommend it to anyone who is looking to create better longterm relationships in their family. It isn't a troubleshooting book with a superficial approach to parenting - if you are just looking for a good way to potty train, or get yur child to sleep more - this is probably not the best place to start. If you're looking for a book that will help you see your children as individuals, understand how they tick, and suggest ways of interacting with them in all situations, then this is a great place to start.
This book takes a while to read if you want to make the most of it. Don't approach it in a hurry. Take the time to do the suggested exercises and you will learn a lot about yourself and your children and how you tick. I had never really thought about some of the things it talked about before, and I really appreciated a book that encouraged me to think about what kind of personality and way of learning my children had. It teaches you how to teach your children important strategies to help them through childhood, and, in my opinion, on into adult life. Strategies to help them cope, for example, with stressful situations at school and making friends.
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"brilliant every home should have one…"
as a mum of eight ranging in age from 2 to 19 this book was very helpful and informative . it is definitely thought provoking . the simple idea that the words you use in communicating with your children can affect their response has changed the way i deal with sibling rivalry ,teenagers. i feel much more able to parent in a positive way . i now have a better understanding of why what i'm doing works rather than it just being chance .i feel calmer when dealing with sibling rivalry and conflict
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I am a stay at home mum of two children aged 7 and 2. The age difference causes an awful lot of squabbling and shouting and its hard to know how to manage and discipline them. Add in a husband who is away an awful lot for work and you have a house with a lot of bellowing and shouting.
I gave this book a try as I wanted a different approach and one that would benefit both the children and myself. This book sets out a series of reflective tasks mixed in with useful techniques, insight and advice. I was a bit dubious at first butfound that it is written in a confident, kind and down-to-earth style with no psychobabble. I didn't feel judged or like I was made to feel bad at all.
The book took a month or two to work through with all the tasks and giving the information a chance to settle in and absorb, but I have found that the level of shouting has diminished by at least 50%, everyone seems happier and I seem to be parenting more calmly and intuitively. It is not a simple 'quick-fix' solution, but its one that aims to change parenting for good. I am very impressed with how easy this was to read and understand and how much of an impact it has had on my life.
I can recommend this book to other parents in a similar situation to myself and also parents wanting to have a better relationship with their children. It would also be useful to a parent who wants to boost their child's confidence and self-esteem as the techniques involved help to identify your child's strengths and weaknesses, accept them and talk to them positively and constructively about it.
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"A thoroughly enjoyable, thought-provoking but research-based approach to parenting…"
We found this a must-have for our bookshelf. It was a reflective but solution-focussed approach to getting the most positive outcomes out of family life. Although grounded in established and proven theory it is a book that speaks to parents in a way that is amenable, universal and yet an easy-read. Personally I think it is a relationship bible that will stand the test of time. It leads one on a journey to a calmer and more positive place in family life. I think it is guaranteed to be a well-thumbed handbook, dipped into time and time again when the going gets a bit tough.
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