When your kids push your Buttons, and how to deal with it', by Bonnie Harris

A life-changing book about anger issues for parents. This book allowed me to see the aggressive behaviour that my son was displaying came directly from my behaviour. Once I changed, he changed.
Once I had calmed down and got back in control I could then implement all the wonderful strategies that I'd read about in 'How to Talk....' but which had not really worked before.
If your anger scares you sometimes, this book may help.