Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, by How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

This is a brilliant book. So easy to read and I agree with everything in it.

I wasn't keen on the activities and assignments dotted throughout, but even if you don't do them it gives you an opportunity to reflect on what you have just read.
I had just read Unconditional Parenting and found it quite difficult to see how I could put some of the concepts into practice. 'How to Talk' sets it out in a much clearer way. I now understand the 'no praise' concept a lot better. It isn't "Don't Praise", its "be careful what language you use to praise".

Comments from other Mumsnetters:

There was lots of praise for this "sensible," "practical," "realistic" book. "Not perhaps the most PC of books - but its no-nonsense approach helped me!" "It's split into easy reference chapters so you can access advice on particular problems - I've had the book in one hand and a screaming toddler in the other!" Plus there's "lots of advice on behaviour and lots of examples. There were some dissenters: "you simply cannot advocate smacking, however lightly, in this day and age." All appreciated the humour though: "Funny and gripping and good to find that there are worse toddlers than your own! "

I loved this book. It really made inspired me to look at how I talk to my children and sometimes talk at them instead of with them. I had been having a few problems with my daughter who has an answer for everything, and this really helped me to see that I had some work to do and really change!

I have reccomended this book to every parent I know as I have such faith in it. Practical, sensible advice which works.

I could apply the advice staight away and really feel like this was a break throughfor me and the kids in the way we interact with each other. I feel like I set boundaries and respect them at the same time. I loved the sense of humour that this book suggests you have with the children - it gets us through the worst moments!

Fantastic book, it makes so much sense. Putting it into practice isnt is hard as I imagined and the children respond so so well.

Fab book, has reduced the arguments in our house a lot, works on dp's too

An excellent book which changed the way I speak to my childen with great results. Simple & inspiring.

An excellent guide to communicating with our children, I wish I had known about it years ago, many conflicts and stress (mine!) would probably have been avoided!

Very useful, very respectful of childrens and parents needs. Takes perseverance, but its slowly helping.

An excellent book which gives clear and concise advice on how to deal with everyday difficult situations. Highly recommended.

Magic. This works. You have to keep trying, but it works.