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"Fantastic book! Informative and interesting!…"
This book is beautifully written, it is crammed full of evidence, opinion and facts. There are 10 separate chapters including: What is Oxytocin? Ocytocin in adult relationships and Oxytocin and trust. Each chapter is broken into easy to read sections making it easier as a reader to absorb the given information. There are mentions throughout of different experiments that have been done with regards to Oxytocin levels, some using babies, men, rats.... These experiments are interesting to read and I have regaled many of them to family members since reading!
Oxytocin is such an amazing, important hormone and I can't beleive that this book has not been written before! I have breastfed both of my children and I am aware of the role of oxytocin with regards to this but I didn't understand the full impact of it on all relationships.
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone interested in how their body works and how they can impact their own lives and the lives of their children in the best ways possible.Read moreLess
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"A book about the hunger for touch…"
The Hormone of Closeness: The role of oxytocin in relationships, is the second book I've read by Kerstin Uvnas Moberg on the subject of oxytocin, the hormone involved in childbirth, bonding and so much more.
Moberg posits an explanation of attachment theory wherein oxytocin underpins the child's sense of security through enhanced wellbeing, increased calm, and a sense of satisfaction. She terms the innate and evolutionarily necessary need for closeness and contact with others as "skin hunger," to equate it with hunger for food. This casts touch and its effects in a useful new light, showing how breastfeeding is about so much more than the transfer of milk, for the mother and the baby.
While much of the evidence in the book is drawn from lab studies on rats, her arguments are logical and compelling. Lay readers might skip the scientific stuff about what goes on in the brain, and read instead the fascinating description of the mother-baby relationship in the first place, which is then drawn into the wider context of our social interactions, stress levels, and the way we live.
Looking forward to the implications of the development of synthetic oxytocin, Moberg acknowledges that artificially increasing oxytocin levels, thereby increasing the tendency to trust, might not always be a good thing, particularly in a setting where we would not naturally be trusting. Evidently it would be better for the individual, and for society as a whole, to find natural ways to increase the world's oxytocin levels. To illustrate this, she looks at the doula phenomenon, where a trusted woman present at birth can have a positive outcome, by allowing the birthing mother to tune into her body and allow levels of oxytocin to rise, facilitating labour and bonding with the new baby.
She finishes by looking at the possible consequences of our increasingly separate lives, and with a call on behalf of future generations to consider how to bring back social closeness, that "all of us on earth could live in peace and harmony with one another." [p157]. This is an enlightening and affirming read.
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"Worth a read…"
As a nursing mother I am very aware of the benefits and effects of oxytocin in childbirth and the nursing relationship, however, I hadn't really considered the wider role that this wonderful hormone plays in all human relationships, and beyond to the animal kingdom. In the `Hormone of Closeness' Moberg demonstrates just how important oxytocin is for developing bonds, a sense of trust, improving our emotional and physical wellbeing. She explores how it could be used to help people with social disorders, anxiety, stress-related illnesses - pretty exciting stuff.
The book gets a bit technical in places, but I guess that's to be expected given the subject matter - plus, there are helpful diagrams which go some way in helping those who don't know their amygdala from their hippocampus.
Worth a read.Read moreLess
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