The New Granny's Survival Guide
For those of you who don't know (and where *have* you been?) we've scoured Gransnet boards for pearls of wisdom, slotted them carefully together, and wrapped the whole thing up in a trendy shade of mint green.
We're certain it's going to prove invaluable to thousands of fellow grandmothers (brazen proud face officially permitted).
Thanks to Gransnetters' shrewdness and generosity, we've been able to provide advice on everything from protecting your grandchild online to helping them deal with bereavement.
Sage words abound on the balance between helping and interfering - "I quietly crawled back into my shell and just smiled in a granny kind of way", says specki4eyes - and how to deal with bad behaviour. Is it better to take a back seat on discipline, or should you take an active approach in teaching your grandkids right from wrong? And while we're at it: should you move to be closer to the new additions to your family? Should you provide financial assistance, if you're able? And what on earth should they call you, if you're not quite ready to be "grandma" yet?
The book also looks at the thorny issue of grans providing free childcare ("I am a nana - i.e. a grandma - not a nanny - i.e. a childcare professional", says the very wise milliesmum), providing tips on how to set out the parameters, and how to say "no" when you need to.
It covers every age - from fussy toddlers to teens tackling addiction - and each chapter is dotted with the personal stories of Gransnetters, women (and men) who really have seen and done it all, and are doing wonders to banish the old biddy stereotype peddled by so many.
There's even a guide to looking after small children, drawing on the (now official – they've printed thousands!) rules of Gransnet - yes, food as a hat is a clever fashion statement, and yes, any roadside vegetation is an acceptable place to pee if you are potty training.