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'Doctors told me not to have a baby - but it's the best thing I've done'

Diagnosed with an incurable illness, Sue was determined not to let it stop her building a family - here, she tells Still You what it's like being a 'wheelchair mum'

mother child"Despite my happiness at being pregnant, I also felt extremely guilty and selfish: what if my condition meant my baby wasn't healthy? What if I didn't make it? How would I give birth, what about my drugs, and - shit - how would I cope with baby in a wheelchair? Social services and other professionals weren't helpful - I had to prove myself. I was assessed, interviewed, questioned. I was going to have to do this amazingly well or risk the unthinkable: Milo could be taken away from me."

Thursday's blog of the day: I couldn't afford to spend time with my baby, and it's left a chip on my shoulder

Write Like No One's Watching had to return to work shortly after giving birth - here, she mourns the time she lost with her son, and urges new parents to cherish every moment

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"I had 11 weeks of leave in total. That may not seem like very much to some, but for me, finishing at 39 weeks and four days pregnant, it felt like a holiday. But he was late. And I was heartbroken. Not just because I was fat and bored - I was that, too - but because I felt like someone had turned the hourglass too early and I couldn't stop the time from slipping away. In the end, he was just shy of nine weeks when I found myself sat at my desk - a desk that hadn't even had the chance to grow a dusty layer."


Wednesday's blog of the day: Sudocrem and car keys: all your baby *really* needs  

Forget the expensive toys and stimulating games - babies' tastes tend to be simple in nature, writes Kohl Mama

remote"Sudocrem brings a whole new meaning to exploratory sensory play. This inexpensive, thick, sticky and impossible-to-remove cream is feared by all parents with a mobile baby. By using words and questions during play that relate to your child's experience, as a parent or caregiver you can link sensory experiences with cognitive growth, leading to new vocabulary acquisition. Maybe "F***!!! The new TV!!!" is not ideal."

Tuesday's blog of the day: Why we need to stop using the word 'mumpreneur'

Combining running a business with being a mother is no mean feat, but defining women by their childbearing status is insulting and patronising, writes Emma Woods of Still You

Working mother"As long as this term is out there shamelessly distracting the nation with its audacious mumtastic headlines, it throws a shadow over the real issues facing mothers returning to work. We get so obsessed with how so-and-so managed to create an empire during nap-time (honestly, the mind boggles) that we're not asking whether this was her only palatable option. Did she struggle to return to traditional employment and if so, why?"

Monday's blog of the day: You may have got out of the kitchen, but it's still your responsibility

While women in highly paid professional roles are perceived as 'successful', this does not mean they have escaped sexism at home, argues Feminist Mum

lean in"In reality, the interests of women are not that different whether you are working or middle class because, even if you can afford to outsource your ironing and reach a level of professional success, society's expectations of female realms of responsibility remain the same. As long as we continue to judge each other and fail to value the contribution that women make in all spheres of society, we are doing ourselves an injustice."

 

Last updated: 30-Jan-2015 at 11:14 AM