Think I offended the MIL

(35 Posts)

You know how sometimes you just forget that other people don't hang out on here and think the same things, on occasion?

I am going to get myself in trouble grin

We are going on a self-catering holiday soon with lots of the in-laws (don't ask, it was not my idea) MIL rang me this week to tell me her latest plan. Apparently, when we get there, all the women are going to go to the supermarket to stock up for the week.

I said Bloody hell, where are we going on holiday, to the 1950's?

Ooops. And I will have no internet while we are there and she will drive me bonkers. <breathe> If anyone else has some verbal diarrhoea stories to share then please do.

HumphreyCobbler Sat 06-Apr-13 11:05:14

grin

I wouldn't put up with that either

grin

She is not that bad as MILs go, I just don't want to go on holiday with her really. I don't want to go on holiday with anyone who doesn't live in my house. <antisocial>

HumphreyCobbler Sat 06-Apr-13 11:09:20

I must be antisocial too then. Holidays are stressful enough without adding extended family into the mix <miserable old grump>

kim147 Sat 06-Apr-13 11:11:52

"Apparently, when we get there, all the women are going to go to the supermarket to stock up for the week."

Whilst the men folk sit round the fire doing men stuff grin

I may have to take notes and report back grin
We don't go until the Whit holidays.

She is really looking forward to it

JoJoCK Sat 06-Apr-13 11:16:38

Another antisocial person here- we have booked holiday accommodation for August that has 4 bedrooms, and we only need two. (Really good value student accommodation that is let out for the summer). DSD has been coached to tell all extended family that we only have two bedrooms as BIL and DH's aunt are apparently coming on holiday to the same destination at the same time as us-joy! I will have a nervous breakdown if they stay with us! You are a saint op.

TeWiSavesTheDay Sat 06-Apr-13 11:16:57

Maybe you could suggest the men iron all the creased clothes the suitcases while you are out? grin

How long is the trip? I'm sure it'll be okay.

It's a week, somewhere sort of isolated ish, ie near a small village. It could be worse, one of the ILs was campaigning for a remote Scottish island shock but luckily we found something marginally less dreadful.

It's going to be a long week.

beatlegirl Sat 06-Apr-13 11:34:08

JojoCK, the student accommodation sounds like a great idea for a holiday! Do you mind me asking where it is?

Fairylea Sat 06-Apr-13 11:34:49

Sounds like hell.

I'd be infectiously very ill and unable to go.....

Don't tempt me, Fairylea.

The children have already had chickenpox so that's out... grin

Startail Sat 06-Apr-13 11:43:58

Look on the bright side, it will be a lot cheaper healthier week if you don't involved the men folk in the shopping.

(My DDs much prefer to take DH shopping due because he buys biscuits and doughnuts.)

Just make it very clear that those males who know how to cook do and those who don't wash up and hover at the end of the week.

JoJoCK Sat 06-Apr-13 11:51:09

Beatlegirl, I have sent you a pm as the destination outs me!

Don't go. Can you break your leg?

Booyhoo Sat 06-Apr-13 11:58:27

what would she/they do if you just stayed with the menfolk when they left for the supermarket? you know as if you were a man, pretended you never even considered going to the market just because you have a vagina? would there be a commotion?

onedev Sat 06-Apr-13 12:01:37

You must be a saint as no way I could do that grin.

Id just give her a list of things to buy for you guys & pass on going to the supermarket!

I was about to say, just pretend you've grown a penis for the week! deciding who goes to the supermarket based on genitalia, rediculous idea!!

NiceTabard Sat 06-Apr-13 12:06:20

What will the "menfolk" be doing while you are all at the supermarket - something involving fire or heavy machinery presumably?!!

We had a holiday like this once, the women did the shops and cooked all teh food, the men did the cooking on the day we had a BBQ...

NiceTabard Sat 06-Apr-13 12:06:37

only the meat obv not the salads and bits that went with it

Now that all depends can you leave any dc with the men folk and then have long coffee while shopping

Broken leg, growing a penis...I think I need something that won't involve surgery or a cast. She would promise to look after me for the week <shudder>

Arf@ BBQs, they are planned too. Not DH's forte really, as a non-meat eater. He must have really let her down.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Sat 06-Apr-13 12:18:49

Now make sure you put on a nice frock and some lippy grin

Thank fuck my MIL is a feminist.

Anniegetyourgun Sat 06-Apr-13 13:02:33

I wouldn't leave the DC with a bunch of menfolk if there's barbecues involved. MIL did that with her DS1 (my XH) when he was small. He was lucky: not only did he survive, but after extensive surgery he recovered the full use of his hands. (Could have set him up for a successful life of crime actually, as he no longer had fingerprints.) MIL never quite recovered from the guilt of not being there to prevent it. FIL, who was there, didn't seem all that worried.

Disclaimer: not all menfolk, obviously. But if the OP's MIL exemplifies the family culture, I'd say it's a risk not worth taking.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 06-Apr-13 13:27:28

Annie, presumably the OP's DH is one of the "menfolk" and is a reasonable human being.

Please say what TeWi said about the ironing.

Well yes, he is a pretty decent human being actually and perfectly able to supervise the children even without having any ovaries shock grin

In fact he is out with the DCs now and I have no idea what they are doing.

I might make myself some MIL bingo cards to keep myself amused while we are away. She reads the Mail and has a 'thing' about benefits - she wouldn't last 5 minutes on MN. I think I need to see it as a challenge.

Anniegetyourgun Sat 06-Apr-13 13:48:46

Ironing, definitely, I'm sure they can manage that. My dad was the original Red-Blooded Man's Man (in his eyes at least) but he was bloody good at ironing.

Basically, no good ever comes of going on holiday with MILs, even lovely ones. Faking illness looks like the only solution.

buttercrumble Sat 06-Apr-13 14:15:01

Sounds horrendous

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 06-Apr-13 14:35:10

Like the bingo idea!

bigTillyMint Sat 06-Apr-13 14:40:28

OP, love your use of the MIL and the 1950's commentgrin

Can't believe she's planning the shopping trip when it's not for 8weeksshock

ashesgirl Sat 06-Apr-13 20:58:16

Oh gawd, how awful. Reminds me of my MIL who thinks we should go clothes shopping together as a "girls'" treat.

Hmm, I'm not the ideal DIL for her, methinks confused

"Basically, no good ever comes of going on holiday with MILs, even lovely ones."

Rubbish.

orangeandlemons Tue 09-Apr-13 21:27:17

Wear a strap on and sit with the men when the 'girls go shopping'. I would just not go deliberately, making it obvious why. Then I would go with dh. But I'm an awkward cow!

TeiTetua Wed 10-Apr-13 01:37:44

Tell them that if it's a question of recreational shopping, you claim conscientious objector status.

Andro Wed 10-Apr-13 14:52:29

MoaningMingeWhingesAgain - you don't need chicken pox, you just need a couple of spoons full of syrup of figs/a large serving or 2 of prune juice. Oh dear! I think it would be a bad idea to go on hols MIL, I seem to be needing the.........<OP dashes to the bathroom complete with phone>

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