'I'm not going to rape you' - as a chat up line

(32 Posts)
Wahtawah Fri 26-Oct-12 23:27:52

Can I have your thoughts please?

Wahtawah Sat 27-Oct-12 00:03:28

Anyone? It's my first foray into Feminist Chat and I could do with some help.

NewNames Sat 27-Oct-12 00:04:04

Sorry, I can't see the full subject on my phone. '...as a chat up line?'

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream Sat 27-Oct-12 00:05:10

That's what every rapist would say

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Oct-12 00:05:32

Well, obviously "I'm not going to rape you" is a pretty shit chat-up line.

Who said it, and in what circumstances?

NewNames Sat 27-Oct-12 00:05:54

Ok, it was.

Agreed. Shite chat up line.

BeingBooyhoo Sat 27-Oct-12 00:05:55

i've never had anyone say this to me as a chat up line. is it a common one?

Wahtawah Sat 27-Oct-12 00:06:08

Yes NewNames, it was said as a chat up line

NewNames Sat 27-Oct-12 00:07:10

Well it's crap.

I don't think I'd be going for a date with them.

BeingBooyhoo Sat 27-Oct-12 00:11:21

im wondering what the chatter up expects as a response to this line. do they expect you to heave a sigh of relief and say "oh great, i dont want to be raped, this must mean we're meant for each other." or would a brush off be "oh that's disappointing, i wanted to be raped tonight". hmm

i cant imagine that line ever working.

Wahtawah Sat 27-Oct-12 00:24:26

This was my 25 year old son on FB. I am so disappointed/angry !!!! I need to respond to him somehow but cannot think how.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Oct-12 00:30:55

Ok, I think we need a little more context? I'm assuming this was part of a conversation, rather than an opening line (and also have a 25yo son).

Wahtawah Sat 27-Oct-12 00:38:19

It was a status OldLady.

'For all you lads out there.... seems the chat-up line "I'm not going to rape you" works as a line....... who would have thunk it?!

NewNames Sat 27-Oct-12 00:40:51

I'd just talk to him about it. I want to know more! Please report back OP w

NewNames Sat 27-Oct-12 00:40:59


OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Oct-12 00:58:04


I'm wondering if there's a connection with a TV show. Sorry not to be more specific, but I have a vague recollection of that line being used on some sitcom aimed at the younger generation (also have a 22 yo son who watches a lot of shite, I'm in the same room but not really paying attention, but that line resonates in a very "everyone felt it was cringy and it even caught my attention!" way) so it's possible your ds was being ironic?

Apologies for the stream of consciousness stuff there, but really, I did hear that line used in a US sitcom within the last week, and it was in a cringe-worthy manner.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Oct-12 01:05:27

Actually, no, I've remembered, it was near the beginning of "Me and Mrs Jones" tonight! At 9.30pm, does that tie in with the Fb status?

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Oct-12 01:13:02

And apologies to US sitcom makers. blush

lisaro Sat 27-Oct-12 01:24:30

Never ever apologise to US 'sitcom' makers. They owe so much more than apologies.

BeingBooyhoo Sat 27-Oct-12 01:38:10

hmm, yes it does seem like he might have being sarcastic (is that the right word?) if he was being serious. show him my response (i'm 26 so similar age to him) and let him know that's the effect he's likely to have on anyone he tries it on.

BeingBooyhoo Sat 27-Oct-12 01:40:53

shock blush

terrible punctuation in my post. sorry.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Oct-12 02:13:01

Lisaro, you have a point... However, I think I was wrong and should say so.

Alameda Sat 27-Oct-12 13:44:50

have a 111th trimester* abortion?

*not good at counting, sorry

Anniegetyourgun Sat 27-Oct-12 15:04:37

It sounds like he's being sarcastic to me. You've got to hope so, at least.

YerMaw1989 Sat 27-Oct-12 19:34:05

Why are you angry if you don't know the context??

and plus he is an adult at 25 what do you expect to achieve?. x

FastLoris Mon 29-Oct-12 01:13:23

It's probably marginally better than "I AM going to rape you".

But not by much.

deleted203 Mon 29-Oct-12 01:22:44

It's a shit chat up line, but not sure why you, as his mother, are policing his FB if he's aged 25 TBH. Am amazed he even lets you have access to it. Presumably he and his mates post all sorts of non PC crap on there, that they don't really want their mothers reading.

YerMaw1989 Mon 29-Oct-12 12:30:24

I agree sow, there is no way I would ever have my parents on fb its a bit creepy, and if any of them tried to tell me what to do they'd be told in no uncertain terms.

Possible off a film/TV programme?
OP have you never made near the knuckle/dark remarks?.

KRITIQ Mon 29-Oct-12 12:33:27

OP, have you talked with your son about this? It sounds like that might be the best thing to do.

babylann Mon 05-Nov-12 17:24:05

Well I'm 24 and have both of my parents added on facebook. I don't see why not and I don't think they were creepy for adding me.

Trekkie Mon 05-Nov-12 19:56:16

I have had this said.

Meant as a "joke" - Oh go on come out with me I'm nice not evil ha ha.

Just something that some thoughtless young men say I think.

I have a feeling that I have had it said in a more threatening way - after asking a bloke to get lost the response "what, do you think I'm going to rape you" much in the same way as "you're ugly anyway" or "you're a lesbian" - that sort of vibe.

EduCated Tue 06-Nov-12 13:03:43

I've had it said to me. I walked off.

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