Does anyone have a script for turning down an alcoholic drink?
I find the back-and-forth of no-thank-you-yes-I'm-sure-yes-I'm-really-sure to be wearing.
I am none of: teetotal, cutting down a bit, a recovering alcoholic, pregnant, or trying to be pregnant. I felt moved to post this question after the other evening when a barman tried to "upsell" the soft drink that I ordered and I found that the few rounds of back-and-forth insisting-and-saying-no left me feeling irritated.
I appreciate that he was doing his job and encouraging a party spirit, but I ordered a soft drink, and did not want any hassle. I would prefer something to say that is to the point and not insulting, as typically the insister is aiming for hospitable and missing the mark in my opinion, or so I like to think.
I am trying to find a turn of phrase that will not start a debate either. I once has a soft drink with some pre-dinner nibbles, then later in the evening was told "good girl" when I accepted the offer of a glass of wine with dinner. I think this says more about them than me but wanted express irritation about that incident.
Sometimes "maybe later" is vague enough but it is not strictly accurate if I later on chose not to partake only to face another round of insisting.
I posted this in Feminism chat - I am not sure whether this behaviour is gender-related or not, maybe someone else might have some thoughts on this.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Feminism: Sex & gender discussions
Saying no to alcohol
50 replies
erinaceus · 15/10/2016 17:09
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.